Ooo, you directive beast, you! You were supposed to blush and move on to the obvious conclusion that INTJs and ENFJs work great with sharing Ni on ideas, and ideas alone. So long as neither is the boss, it's a great intellectual relationship.
Based upon the dialogue snippet in the OP, I wouldn't blame it on bad memory. "How was your Turkey Day?" kinda sounds rhetorical, to me. I mean, I'd answer it if there was nothing else to talk about, but if we'd moved onto something more interesting, I certainly wouldn't go, "Oh, yeah, dude asked me about Turkey Day, better go back and fill in that gap!"
Sounds not so much as a memory issue but more along the lines of her just wanting to talk about you and not so much herself.
As far as my memory goes I couldn't ask for much more. I am a fact junkie, especially when it comes to movies My logical reasoning on the other hand has been consistently improved since what I take in school is almost based on pure logic, definitely wasn't one of my smartest decisions