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[NF] _NFPs, are you very private?

autumn

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Something I've come across a few times, and that I myself have noticed as well, is that _NFPs apparently tend to be very private about our personal lives. Do you find this to be true in your experience, and why do you think this is?

autumn
 

Anja

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I used to be very private. Secretive, actually.

As I've gotten older I've gotten more comfortable with self-disclosure if I think it'll be useful for someone.

So, no.
 

kyuuei

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I think I give this illusion of being an open book.. I say things that some people would find personal.. but the reality is, I say a lot of little things.. so that people never really get to asking me the bigger, deeper things.
 

pholiveira

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I like to keep a little mystery aura about myself on purpose, but I realized I'm quite the open person, even in personal matters.
 

FantailedWall

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I think I give this illusion of being an open book.. I say things that some people would find personal.. but the reality is, I say a lot of little things.. so that people never really get to asking me the bigger, deeper things.

^^^ That's me all over.
Once people get to know me they start to realise - engage a lot though I may - I'm still a mystery to them, due to never having actually really opened up.
 

BerberElla

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I think I give this illusion of being an open book.. I say things that some people would find personal.. but the reality is, I say a lot of little things.. so that people never really get to asking me the bigger, deeper things.

^^^ That's me all over.
Once people get to know me they start to realise - engage a lot though I may - I'm still a mystery to them, due to never having actually really opened up.

Snap, I am like this too, the stuff I talk about to do with my personal life can seem very open, but behind them is more that no one ever really gets to see.

I wouldn't say I was private though, just my deeper thoughts.
 

Moiety

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I think I give this illusion of being an open book.. I say things that some people would find personal.. but the reality is, I say a lot of little things.. so that people never really get to asking me the bigger, deeper things.

Read my mind too :) Exactly like me.
 

Lady_X

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interesting...see...us enfp's have inner worlds too haha :)
 

Nihilen

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Damn, what are you all _NFPs hiding ? Kill a man in Reno just to watch him die ?
 

Lady_X

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same as you i guess.
 

Lady_X

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^^ yeah that too...haha
 

Nonsensical

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I was actually just thinking about this.

The thought being that the line between social life, school, friends, etc. and your own personal and even family life, is pretty thick. I sometimes feel like I'm living two lives- the gap between social and private life is so thick, it sometimes messes with me.
 

aguanile

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Oh, yeah. That happens to me a lot. People feel like I am this open book because I share certain things. Maybe things that they would never share. But for some reason they don't feel personal to me. So, it makes people feel like they are really close to me because I've "divulged" whatever it is.

I learned the hard way that you share with people only that which you don't mind them sharing with others.
 

Anja

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What we don't like to share? I'm thinking our most vulnerable spot.
 

prplchknz

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maybe, but i also think my life isn't that interesting so i just don't want to bore the other person.
 

BerberElla

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maybe, but i also think my life isn't that interesting so i just don't want to bore the other person.

Hey, my life is pretty boring too, but what I let them in on is my mind, and that's a mindfield of excitement. You being my type, I know this must be true for you too. ;)
 

Udog

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Private almost to a fault.
 
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