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    Default Could INFPs lack a compatible type?

    Hi everyone!

    As an INFP, I think too much I'm guessing or maybe hoping that I've managed to think myself into a corner and am missing something obvious.

    With that said, I don't mean this to sound like a feel sorry thread. I'm just looking for some different views on the topic.

    So I get the whole complementary type theory, like ISFP/ESTJ, making the best pairing. But I've also found that the world tends to design for the majority. It's possible that the complementary theory works well with SP/SJ types, but is not blanket rule for all personalities.

    I find SPs fun to hang out with, and then tend to be able to pause my endless thinking for a bit so I can just have a little fun. But beyond that, there isn't much connection because they don't seem to get me. There ends up not being enough depth for anything serious.

    SJs generally like me and I think often confuse me with an SP, thinking that there isn't a storm behind the calm they see. I respect and get along with them, although they tend to think there is something broken about me that they need to fix.

    According to the theory, NTs should be the best match. I suppose my longest relationship was an NT, but I always struggled with the coldness that I felt. She was an INFJ, so maybe if she was an ENFJ it would have been different. But I have to wonder why the lack of NTs in my life.

    That leaves NFs. I only learned about personality types in the past few years, so I didn't know this while they were happening, but it seems that the closest past relationships I've had have been either INFPs or ENFPs.

    Only the INFPs turned into full relationships. The ENFPs seemed to do a better job of encouraging communication. But in all of the cases, there seemed to be some situation that got in the way. If we got past whatever situation in the beginning, it came back to bite later. But sadly, without some sort of situation going on, we don't seem to meet and get close in the first place.

    So this has left me thinking that it really shouldn't be this difficult. If it is, the maybe something else is going on. Which leads me to my latest idea on why this may be happening.

    What if INFPs are meant to be a catalyst for other relationships, but are not meant to engage themselves? This sounds really dire if you look at it from an individual level, but stepping back and looking at this from a species, maybe it makes sense. It certainly would explain why something that should be a natural process would be so insanely difficult.

    I told you I think too much.

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    I reckon ENFJs would be a good match with INFP.

    ...and by the way I think ISFPs and ESTJs make better adversaries than partners. Complete opposities on the same battlefield, like an ENTJ CEO vs INFP environmental activist or an ESFJ teacher vs a rebellious ISTP student.

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    The theory is flawed, dude. If the theory says this but your experience shows you something else, ignore the theory and follow what experience is teaching you. Theory was written in some office somewhere, experience is your life.

    So, that said, I don't believe INFP's could lack a compatable type... compatability can only exist between people, and the type won't really matter in the end.

    What kind of "situations" are you talking about exactly... I don't quite understand what you are getting at.

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    I agree with Quinlan that an ENFJ would be an amazing match for an INFP. Being an ENFJ myself just reading the INFP description makes me feel like I could actually trust a person with those traits above everyone else.

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    I confused.

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    Just avoid the ISTJs. Shun them.

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    Some observations.
    • Consider functions more.
    • Consider types less.
    • People's upbringing and a ton of other things are just as important as their type.
    • Everyone loves INTJs.
    "The life of the individual has meaning only insofar as it aids in making the life of every living thing nobler and more beautiful."
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    First saxman, welcome to the forums.

    I would say that the theories on compatibilities for INFPs is about as good as any other type.

    The common theories I've read suggest ENFJ, ENTJ, ESTJ, and ESTP. (That last one is Socionics, so be sure you are still an INFP under that system.) The problem is that all four types are pretty dominant, so it can be pretty easy to get steamrolled by any one of them. However, if you are able to hold your own with them, the dynamic can be pretty amazing.

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    Interesting feedback. I would think that there would be something natural that would cause one to gravitate towards compatibility. I wonder why I haven't seen that happen.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DigitalMethod View Post
    Some observations.
    • Consider functions more.
    • Consider types less.
    • People's upbringing and a ton of other things are just as important as their type.
    • Everyone loves INTJs.
    HA. So every INTJ I've ever met seems to think, anyway....

    Other than that, sound advice. Compatibility is rarely solely based on 'type match'. There are way too many other factors.

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