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    Default INFP vs. ENFP reasons for needing time alone

    After reading all these threads by people questioning if they're INFP or ENFP, I think part of the problem is us ENFPs confusing everyone by saying we also need time alone. I'm guessing we need it for way different reasons than INFPs do, but that distinction is never explained in any of the type descriptions.

    Introverts say they need time alone to recharge after socializing. For me, it's more the opposite. If anything, I need to discharge some of my energy after socializing or I'll be too hyped up to sleep.

    Here are a few other reasons I just came up with:

    - To get away from boring people. If I'm not enjoying the people, socializing will wear me out - like it's too mentally taxing to pay attention to the crap they're saying.

    - To process something I've just seen, learned, or experienced. Sometimes I have to stop taking in more external stimulation to deal with the stuff I've already gotten (no idea if that makes sense, but the ENFPs will probably get it.)

    - To just be flat-out weird and hyper and not have to deal with anyone's reaction to it. This is the one I'm most curious about because it isn't talked about very much. Do any other ENFPs do this? Seems like "alone time" is associated with sitting quietly in your room, but my alone time can be driving fast and singly badly along with my radio or taking an impulsive weekend trip to Vegas.

    ENFPs, what do you think? Why do you need alone time and what do you do when you get it?

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    yeah...most of that stuff for me too and another thing might be because when we're with people we're are so focused on them that we barely think of ourselves at all...my energy is inside their head...or something...hyper focused almost...so...we've got to go off and have independent thoughts...or just be creative or lazy or whatever...haha...ahh...sounds like the same reasons an introvert does though! haha
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    Quote Originally Posted by scattershot View Post
    After reading all these threads by people questioning if they're INFP or ENFP, I think part of the problem is us ENFPs confusing everyone by saying we also need time alone. I'm guessing we need it for way different reasons than INFPs do, but that distinction is never explained in any of the type descriptions.

    Introverts say they need time alone to recharge after socializing. For me, it's more the opposite. If anything, I need to discharge some of my energy after socializing or I'll be too hyped up to sleep.

    Here are a few other reasons I just came up with:

    - To get away from boring people. If I'm not enjoying the people, socializing will wear me out - like it's too mentally taxing to pay attention to the crap they're saying.

    - To process something I've just seen, learned, or experienced. Sometimes I have to stop taking in more external stimulation to deal with the stuff I've already gotten (no idea if that makes sense, but the ENFPs will probably get it.)

    - To just be flat-out weird and hyper and not have to deal with anyone's reaction to it. This is the one I'm most curious about because it isn't talked about very much. Do any other ENFPs do this? Seems like "alone time" is associated with sitting quietly in your room, but my alone time can be driving fast and singly badly along with my radio or taking an impulsive weekend trip to Vegas.

    ENFPs, what do you think? Why do you need alone time and what do you do when you get it?
    Yes!

    I agree 100%.

    Well said.

    Especially this:

    If anything, I need to discharge some of my energy after socializing or I'll be too hyped up to sleep.
    And this:

    ...my alone time can be driving fast and singly badly along with my radio or taking an impulsive weekend trip to Vegas.

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    ^^ i know!! totally can't just go right to sleep...and very much like to sing loud in the car and drive fast...taking the long way to wherever i'm going.
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    Quote Originally Posted by scattershot View Post
    - To process something I've just seen, learned, or experienced. Sometimes I have to stop taking in more external stimulation to deal with the stuff I've already gotten (no idea if that makes sense, but the ENFPs will probably get it.)
    It's all true - but this one - - so very much!

    But I find that I DO actually have to get away to recharge sometimes. Well...actually, I'm not sure if that's in the same way as introverts, it's more a 'figuring stuff out before going back out into the field' thing. My time to think.
    The best description of this being:
    Unlike other Extraverted types, ENFPs need time alone to center themselves, and make sure they are moving in a direction which is in sync with their values.

    Also, even though I'm very strongwilled and outspoken - if someone has upset me personally, I SUCK at confronting them about it. (If they offend my sense of morality it's a different matter altogether) And thus need time alone to brood, and work up the courage.

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    Quote Originally Posted by erinavery View Post
    my energy is inside their head
    Awesome description.

    Quote Originally Posted by FantailedWall View Post
    But I find that I DO actually have to get away to recharge sometimes. Well...actually, I'm not sure if that's in the same way as introverts, it's more a 'figuring stuff out before going back out into the field' thing.
    Yeah, that's what I'm getting at here. I think "recharge" is the wrong word for what we do. It's more like processing information before we're ready to go out and get charged up again by the outside world. We're confusing the INFPs by calling it the same thing.

    Also, even though I'm very strongwilled and outspoken - if someone has upset me personally, I SUCK at confronting them about it. (If they offend my sense of morality it's a different matter altogether) And thus need time alone to brood, and work up the courage.
    I do this too...unless somebody pisses me off to the point where I just can't think at all. Then it all comes out before I even realize I'm going off on the poor fool.

    And am I the only one thinking about how much fun it would be to have an ENFP meetup in Vegas? I probably wouldn't need to sleep the whole time with all that energy going on.

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    ^^ would be so much fun!! are you guys lucky too? i mean...i kinda rock at black jack.
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    My luck's kinda streaky and inconsistent...like everything else I do.

    I usually do well at blackjack and poker. I can even count cards if I really want to, but I get bored and lose interest pretty quickly. I rarely come back from Vegas with any money left, though. Whatever I win at the card table during the day is just ammunition for my drunk nights of nickel slots or video poker.

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    I'm the luckiest person alive! WOOOOOHOO!
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    yay! you can sit by me vanillacat.
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