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    Quote Originally Posted by scattershot View Post
    After reading all these threads by people questioning if they're INFP or ENFP, I think part of the problem is us ENFPs confusing everyone by saying we also need time alone. I'm guessing we need it for way different reasons than INFPs do, but that distinction is never explained in any of the type descriptions.

    Introverts say they need time alone to recharge after socializing. For me, it's more the opposite. If anything, I need to discharge some of my energy after socializing or I'll be too hyped up to sleep.

    Here are a few other reasons I just came up with:

    - To get away from boring people. If I'm not enjoying the people, socializing will wear me out - like it's too mentally taxing to pay attention to the crap they're saying.

    - To process something I've just seen, learned, or experienced. Sometimes I have to stop taking in more external stimulation to deal with the stuff I've already gotten (no idea if that makes sense, but the ENFPs will probably get it.)

    - To just be flat-out weird and hyper and not have to deal with anyone's reaction to it. This is the one I'm most curious about because it isn't talked about very much. Do any other ENFPs do this? Seems like "alone time" is associated with sitting quietly in your room, but my alone time can be driving fast and singly badly along with my radio or taking an impulsive weekend trip to Vegas.

    ENFPs, what do you think? Why do you need alone time and what do you do when you get it?
    Agreed on all three SPECIALLY the first. I try not to shun people who I find uninteresting when social interacting, but you can't expect me to that for 10 hours straight!

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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    I guess like blackcat says it makes sense because after too much time alone I feel restless and I need someone to expel energy with.
    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post
    For the introvert while socializing he will feel relieved to let out his/her energy out, this is why some people act very extroverted but then mellow out. When introverts run out of this energy retained from being alone, they may get irritable and generally be in a bad mood (the same feeling extroverts get when they are alone for too long.)
    Ok, that makes a hell of a lot more sense than saying someone gets drained by socializing and needs to recharge. I was always looking at it from more of an external standpoint, like you guys were being overstimulated by socializing and had to get away from it. Now I see that it's more like an internal "fuel tank" that gets expended and has to be recharged by being alone.

    Thanks for those posts. I just got new insight into how people work, that makes me a happy ENFP.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post
    Interesting... Extroverts have to be alone to discharge energy. I didn't think of it that way.

    For you extroverts to understand, we probably get the same sensation while socializing. I am usually beat and want to sleep after I socialize. I really crave to socialize to let out all this energy I build up being alone, otherwise I will be over hyper and restless.
    Quote Originally Posted by scattershot View Post
    Ok, that makes a hell of a lot more sense than saying someone gets drained by socializing and needs to recharge. I was always looking at it from more of an external standpoint, like you guys were being overstimulated by socializing and had to get away from it. Now I see that it's more like an internal "fuel tank" that gets expended and has to be recharged by being alone.

    Thanks for those posts. I just got new insight into how people work, that makes me a happy ENFP.
    Awesome synthesis, BlackCat and scattershot. If this is so, it could really help me understand I/E so much better...I'll need time to think about it. ;D

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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    I think almost every extrovert needs at least a tiny bit of time alone, just like almost every introvert needs at least a tiny bit of time with someone. I've only met one extrovert in my life who it seemed like never needed to be alone, only time she was alone when she was sleeping at. no matter what time of the day it was if one of her friends weren't over she was on the phone.

    and boring people are draining no matter who you are.

    and for me I do have people that aren't draining, that I can spend all day with and still not be exhausted but those are few and far between. average time I can spend with people before I get cranky and want to go off by myself is about three hours.


    I guess like blackcat says it makes sense because after too much time alone I feel restless and I need someone to expel energy with.
    i don't know if part of this was in response to what i said but if so ...i'll clarify. i said i never have that feeling of needing to get away and that's simply because all things naturally come to an end..you do eventually say goodbye to your friends...and go home...it's just that...i'm having fun the whole time and usually just leaving cuz it's late....not because i've had enough....but yeah....low tolerance for boring people...but luckily i find a lot of people interesting.
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    Quote Originally Posted by scattershot View Post
    Ok, that makes a hell of a lot more sense than saying someone gets drained by socializing and needs to recharge. I was always looking at it from more of an external standpoint, like you guys were being overstimulated by socializing and had to get away from it. Now I see that it's more like an internal "fuel tank" that gets expended and has to be recharged by being alone.

    Thanks for those posts. I just got new insight into how people work, that makes me a happy ENFP.
    OH! that's how i took it too! interesting...makes sense. what a great explanation!
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    Quote Originally Posted by erinavery View Post
    i'm having fun the whole time and usually just leaving cuz it's late....not because i've had enough
    Yep - If I'm having a good time, I'll be the last one to leave. "Aw crap, the sun's coming up...I gotta go home and get ready for work." I've done that way too many times.

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    Quote Originally Posted by erinavery View Post
    i don't know if part of this was in response to what i said but if so ...i'll clarify. i said i never have that feeling of needing to get away and that's simply because all things naturally come to an end..you do eventually say goodbye to your friends...and go home...it's just that...i'm having fun the whole time and usually just leaving cuz it's late....not because i've had enough....but yeah....low tolerance for boring people...but luckily i find a lot of people interesting.
    unless I quote you or mention your name I'm probably not responding directly to you.
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    well alright.
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    Quote Originally Posted by scattershot View Post
    Now I see that it's more like an internal "fuel tank" that gets expended and has to be recharged by being alone.
    Exactly - that's how I've often thought of it ... I have a certain amount of energy (if you think of it like water in a glass) and certain people (or types of interaction) drain it off faster than others. During awkward social gatherings, I often disappear for mini-recharge sessions (the bathroom for example can be a great place to hide for 10 minutes or so) and then am "topped up" for a bit more. If I am giving a presentation, I can "empty the glass" faster. So I bring a snack or a cup of tea to long meetings so the fuel of the food will be an extra brain boost when I want / need it.

    Oh, I guess this makes me an "I" ......

    LOL, I truly would love it if being around others made me feel super-buzzed.

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    so you found your answer...awesome.
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