Again, personally ( I don't want to generalize), it has nothing to be with wanting to be mysterious. The only way for me personally to talk about something I like is in a factual manner. For example if you ask me what my favourite movie is I will rarely answer with my actual favourite movie (depending on how well I know you, partly because the movies I like are so on the fringe of public taste) but something I think that would be pleasing to that person and even then I won't acknowledge why I like it. Wow, this is hard to explain : / .Why do ENFJ's care so much about other people's opinions and not enough of their own? .... is it they want to be mysterious or just not get hurt, being polite? or a little of both?
I guess it comes down to the fact that I would rather learn about you and just try and judge the information you have given to me and then give you back something that will make you happy.
I can honestly say that I can't name one person that truly dislikes me. I treat everyone I see as a friend and instantly devote a certain amount of rapport to that person. I tend to be very judging on everyone I know. I personally can't stand rudeness at all. Rudeness in any form makes me physically and emotionally repulsed by the person. There are other traits that also do this but rudeness is the most common.Why so back and forth with emotions (but usually only with romantic partners) (with friends, from what i've read..they seem to make lots of and keep close ones)?
This may be why your boyfriend was so back and forth with his emotions concerning you. I'm not saying you were rude but maybe you momentarily showed him a trait that he disliked.
Because I hate to see people in a state of distress and if I know I have caused it then it is even worse.why push conflict under the rug rather than face it?
Conclusion: I think he is trying not to hurt you by saying what you want to hear. He could easily still have feelings for you but they are probably in conflict with things that seem more real to him at the moment