A question for all you INFJ men out there: do you flirt openly with people?
A question for all you ENFJ men out there: can you be shy in certain situations?
I ask because I have a person who seems to be either ENFJ or INFJ throwing out indicators of interest and I can't figure him out. I could do things the hard way by talking to him, but being the socially anxious nerd that I am, I'm too nervous.
Anyway, this one guy (forgive the sappy teenage romance, look away if you want no part of it) keeps looking at me with this intense, protracted stare whenever I wait on him at the place where I work. Were he not cute I would say that his stare was creepy (it's a little too intense for me). He says a few things to me from time to time, none of which I can remember since I'm such a nervous wreck, and comes across as confident, upright, calm, and sensitive. Occasionally he'll rush. He's apparently an overachiever at school and is very dedicated to his work.
The reason why I'm confused as to whether he's ENFJ or INFJ is because he demonstrates elements of both types (INFJ - sensitive, understated; ENFJ - confident, initiates conversations). I can't see him being INFJ because I can't see INFJ men flirting by staring down their prey and I can't match him to any INFJ man I currently know. I can't see him being ENFJ because he's not in-your-face and high-octane and I can't match him to any ENFJ man I know. One day I didn't respond to his subtle overtures and he walked away looking timid and dejected. Questions, questions, questions.
The issue for me is that MBTI overly dichotomizes things: behaviors are either all E or all I, rarely in between. I also come from a Socionics background (ask if you're not familiar with it), so I'm all confused about whether with strangers (open displays of emotion, initiating conversations) is INFJ territory or not.
So yeah, at this point I have no clue what he's about. The logical step would be to talk to him at some point, but seeing that I get so nervous in these situations I wouldn't be able to carry on a conversation.
Thanks in advance for reading my blabber; situations like these obviously don't happen too much in my life.