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    Alright, I'm sure this has been a discussion before, but here goes. Does anyone have anything to say about an INFP woman and man doing well together, the woman having a slight J preferece but kinda in the middle on that one. Sex, Marriage, living together? I'd never been with a more caring and deeply loving man before, I didn't know they existed, I thought I was this way because I'm a woman before I studied personality. So what do you guys think about two outragiously romantic INFP's...seems too good to be true but it's been over a year, the best year of my life...

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    Thats great you know. Just from reading from your post, I can tell things are going well for the both of you. I'm so happy that you feel its been the best year you've had, thats a good sign for the future, he's probably thinking along the same lines. I've know INFP +INFP to work, someone will need some J though hahaha, lol.

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    Amazing ... good for you! Why not tell us instead what YOU think about these things? I imagine roles somewhat divide, like Siegfried suggests, even in a healthy true-to-type relationship, but if it pleases you, tell us more. Tell us what worked, what didn't, what kind of difficulties you've had and how you worked through them.
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    Without being in one I can only say it's just another relationship.
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    Quote Originally Posted by hopeseed View Post
    Alright, I'm sure this has been a discussion before, but here goes. Does anyone have anything to say about an INFP woman and man doing well together, the woman having a slight J preferece but kinda in the middle on that one. Sex, Marriage, living together? I'd never been with a more caring and deeply loving man before, I didn't know they existed, I thought I was this way because I'm a woman before I studied personality. So what do you guys think about two outragiously romantic INFP's...seems too good to be true but it's been over a year, the best year of my life...
    Sounds like it's going well.. the test will be, I would say, what happens when the infatuation wears off (somewhere between 18m to 3 years). At least one of you has to have some organisational skills and attention to life details, or you could end up wallowing in NPness. But if you sustain the feelings into love, it's sure to be intense

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    Quote Originally Posted by Geoff View Post
    Sounds like it's going well.. the test will be, I would say, what happens when the infatuation wears off (somewhere between 18m to 3 years). At least one of you has to have some organisational skills and attention to life details, or you could end up wallowing in NPness. But if you sustain the feelings into love, it's sure to be intense
    In a way this idea is a myth. Worst case is they forget to pay the bills and do the dishes. NFPs are pretty good at finding stability, if no one noticed we are probably the ones who seem least uptight about life (and we aren't exactly stupid or naive, go figure). And if INFPs are anything like ENFPs, stepping up and finding a way out when they have to shouldn't be too hard. There is always some ingenious plan B lurking. I can see the INFP evil laughing as he came up with it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Geoff View Post
    But if you sustain the feelings into love, it's sure to be intense
    I didn't know you could say that about people who have been together for a year ... (Geoff, what do your relationships look like?)
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    Quote Originally Posted by noigmn View Post
    In a way this idea is a myth. Worst case is they forget to pay the bills and do the dishes. NFPs are pretty good at finding stability, if no one noticed we are probably the ones who seem least uptight about life (and we aren't exactly stupid or naive, go figure). And if INFPs are anything like ENFPs, stepping up and finding a way out when they have to shouldn't be too hard. There is always some ingenious plan B lurking. I can see the INFP evil laughing as he came up with it.
    I think you are misplaced if you see INFPs as just introverted ENFPs. They aren't. They aren't the least uptight about life, and they can struggle to cope with the practical side of life.

    I agree it's not impossible, I'm just saying that for two INFPs together, they may miss having someone who is organised - and perhaps extraverted - for getting them out there and doing stuff.

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    What a coincident! I was born of two INFPs, in Houston Texas! It's such a small world.

    My dad tells me that his relationship with my mom was deeper than anything he could ever imagine. She died in 1996 from lung cancer, and it royally screwed up his life, and still to this day, he still greeves over it, although he is technically happy again. I imagine INFPs sharing the deepest soul bond that anyone can bare, and it seems as though the closest and deepest relationships will be bewteen INFPs. For these reasons, I feel I'm destined to another INFP, a soul mate, another human being in this chaotic world, whom I can escape to the stars with.
    Is it that by its indefiniteness it shadows forth the heartless voids and immensities of the universe, and thus stabs us from behind with the thought of annihilation, when beholding the white depths of the milky way?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Geoff View Post
    I think you are misplaced if you see INFPs as just introverted ENFPs. They aren't. They aren't the least uptight about life, and they can struggle to cope with the practical side of life.

    I agree it's not impossible, I'm just saying that for two INFPs together, they may miss having someone who is organised - and perhaps extraverted - for getting them out there and doing stuff.
    Both INFPs I've known well in my life are better planned and organised than I am. The tertiary might be an influence. Or maybe they are more worried about being unplanned than I am. They go with the flow a little more in some ways, and they are stronger individually in other ways. They keep their room way cleaner than me too. But may go drifting occasionally. I've just never seen them as that lost that life would fall apart and they would not get back up. Especially if there are two of them and they are in love.
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