I'm am an Introvert who is not socially awkward or shy.... and I have tended to prefer other Introverts because they are who I have had commonality with. I'm not attracted by an opposite. I haven't actually dated more than one Extrovert, as the energy of the Es I've known seems to throw me off when they're coming after you. It seems all consuming. (None of this is intended to be a blanket statement about Es and Is btw, just my own experience.)
I have been thinking about this a lot lately as many Introverts seem to prefer Extroverted partners. Sometimes I think a very reserved person may respond to the attentions of an Extrovert more than anything. The outgoing person takes up the slack in terms of the very reserved person's lack of ability to make a connection themselves for whatever reason. (Sometimes I think they like if the Extrovert does all of the work!) I met an extremely reserved boyfriend's ex-girlfriend, who is one of the most outgoing people I have met. It baffled me that they didn't have a lot in common. But he liked a lot of alone time and she could happily leave him alone to be with her large circle of friends. Also, she would never go too deep with him, so he could stay well-defended but would entertain him with her energy, antics, mishaps, stories. That may be the important dynamic for some Introverts....
Do you guys think opposites in general attract or ultimately clash too much?? Not just in terms of intraversion and extraversion?
Opposites are definitely attracted to each other! I wonder about long term potential in a lot of those cases where someone is initially fascinated by someone because they are different. If they bond on another level it would def work if long term is what's desired.
I know I already said I'm not attracted to someone opposite (I do think I could have a lot in common with some Extroverts, it just hasn't happened that way so far). The reason is that it takes too much energy to be on the same page. I want deep understanding, a bond, which I have only found with people who are similar to me.... I need that otherwise I just keep sides of myself hidden. Or I won't even bother with a relationship in the first place.