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    I think when it's a personal crisis (i.e. I failed my class and will have to be in school yet *another* semester) I don't handle it well at all and can become very emotional, even hysterical. But, if it's an external crisis, (ie. fire, lost in a bad part of chicago, car accident, snakes on the hiking trail) then I'm calm as a cucumber and usually dominant and in control. then, afterwords, when the crisis is totally over, I freak out.
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    Do you detach emotionally in moments of crisis?
    Yes.

    It's how I have survived this long.

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    I'm surprisingly able to. From extreme situations (like spinning out in my car across the freeway) to smaller, personal issues, I'm usually able to keep my head completely clear and focused until I have the situation under control... then I flip out.

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    Yes I do. It's an instinct.
    () 9w8-3w4-7w6 tritype.

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    Absolutely.

    I remember one Sunday morning at church when I was about fourteen the entire church was preparing for an afternoon service that was supposed to persuade teens and kids to learn about the love of Christ and the importance of church and so on and so on. We invited four to five other sister churches in the district (we're A.M.E., btw) for the event, and it was one of the highlights of our year. The program was very light-hearted and, as it persisted, contained an air of comfortable praise amongst the congregation. As it drew towards the end of the service, our reverend asked an acquaintance of hers, who was a spiritual dancer, to come and dance for the program. As I can recall, her performance was absolutely beautiful. It was a technical little piece but was still very moving. At the dance's end the music died down and the dancer's movements slowed as she whirled around and around in tight circles several times as if in deep meditation and eventually fell to her knees weepingly. The pain heard in her cry for spiritual redemption was so clear and piercing. It was such an intimate moment, and I was so shaken by it then that I had faced my back to her and completely shut off my emotions to protect myself from connecting any more deeply with her sorrow than I already had. I remember feeling like such a bad person for detaching myself from the situation, but I was sure if I had welcomed those emotions I would have been sobbing and vulnerable on the floor alongside her.
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    Sometimes, I guess...I'm not all that sure...It gets hazy in here.

    Though there's a difference between detaching and flipping to ESTJ, which I consider more akin to a kind of emotional and ethical dissassociation, except there's no one watching; it's not as if you're locked from behind a sheet of glass. Part of you either switches off, or dies. You're just not there. And yet you are...You 'flip'.

    You're still 'you', but it's like you're in a dream...sort've, though reality seems much the same. Like you're a train and you've changed tracks without the faintest notion, or an audience watching a film who don't realize the whole plotting and atmosphere has changed. Sense, truth and reality shift; all the borderlines start bleeding, and fading, and breaking.
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    I'm not an INFP, but I always disconnect emotionally in times of crisis or great stress.
    It's usually after the event that I might feel emotional, and more often than not it's in private and on my own once everything and everyone else has been sorted.
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    When I'm in a high pressure or stress situation I get very calm and efficient. I think it's my Te coming into play. Which is great because I face pressure deadlines all the time with my work, so instead of freaking out I keep my cool.
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    I wouldn't say detached exactly, but I would say calm. It's like the intensity of the situation shocks me so that I recover with an odd calm. In times of crisis I find that I can reconnect with ideals and really come through as 'a rock' of calm and understanding. It's not that I'm detaching exactly, but rather I'm used to feeling so many emotions on an every day basis it's almost that I'm used to it on some scale, but when I know something big is going down I pull through and just remain calm. It's almost like a skill in some weird way. Any NFs feel the same?

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    I disconnect emotionally out of:
    a. Shock. For example, whenever I found out that someone is dead, it usually takes an hour or so for it to truly sink in.
    b. Helplessness. I avoid the situation, as if it will help it go away. [Which it doesn't.]

    However, when a 'crisis' occurs between someone I care about and me, I tend to confront it head on. I don't want a relationship to die because of poor communication. I'll put my emotions aside for the sake of 'fairness,' though.

    This thread also reminds me of how I reacted when someone tried to break into my house. Now, at the time I was terrified of this very thing happening. However, when I saw the man at the door, I acted instinctively and almost robotically. It's like I knew exactly what needed to be done. Only when he was gone did I start shaking and such.
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