INFJ teasing is one of the few ways they feel comfortable being aggressive, because then, you know, they could just claim to be teasing. They also like to get teased back, for the same reason. True aggression bothers them as they do not know quite how to deal with it.
Edit: Plus teasing allows you to maintain boundaries when things get too close.
"Create like a god, command like a king, work like a slave."
I love playfully being made fun of because it shows that the person making fun of me is thinking about me, and it turns the social attention towards me as well. No one ever makes fun of me maliciously...although, if they did, I'm sure I would hate it (or turn it against them and get attention from that ).
Naturally yes, I hoped everyone would realize that I meant playful, teasing banter within limits. Otherwise its not fun because it quickly becomes grey and I can't tell when it's not "all in fun" anymore.
Or maybe I just have my heart on my sleeve.
Either way, I won't tease someone I don't like.
So I'd hope someone who liked me would pick on me at least a little. It shows me they feel the same about me. Being able to share affection in this way is important to me.
Yeah, I like it if the person respects me and I can trust them. I can't handle it getting too personal though. If it's teasing about something that's always bothered me about myself or something I used to get maliciously teased for, then I put my guard up. But usually if it's coming from someone who truly loves me and has good intentions, I love it. It's actually more about their intentions. When it's done right, it makes me feel special and loved. I seem to make special exceptions for special people in my life as far as what I'll tolerate.
..like to be pushed around/bullied (in a playful way).
At least I do. I've especially noticed this works well with other NFs (primarily I/ENFPs).
Here's the thrust behind this thought... I like to give affection in the same way and when someone I like/love (friend/family) won't return in kind it results in me taking it badly - because I only mess with/tease people that I care about. Others I'm fairly indifferent towards.
I can't relate. I'll have to mull over it further though.
"There is no god; there is only us. Savage and fragile."