Also, I will add that although the girls who passed me up never voiced any sort of regret (they always acted as if nothing had happened...), their friends always apologized to me for their behavior, and were quite mad at them for treating me so poorly. One even apologized for not telling me that a particular girl I had liked for quite a while (the only one I ever asked out, too) had a long history of leading guys on. I could tell that he was sincerely sorry, but I don't see why he couldn't have told me earlier.
Yep. And maybe it does have to do with age, because these are all guys that I was either interested in or had a fling with and they either passed me up or moved on because they probably saw something more sparkly or distracting (haha), but later on, realize what they had or could've had and either apologize or try to get me back.
Us INFJs are the ones you have to hunt for... once we're found, you'd better know what you've got and treat us accordingly. Otherwise, we'll sense that we'll get hurt and, if we're smart enough, we'll leave, or we'll stick around and be scorned, and then you'll never have a second chance.
INFJ's are very hard to find/meet.
It sounds like you've been a victim of a world that is always looking for the BBD: Bigger Better Deal.
I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. --- Maya Angelou
Hmm... that actually happend with me regarding a estp-girl. This was in midschool and I felt pretty angry, but then realized that it was for the best. I was thinking about her all the time just after she didnt want to be around me anymore and the only strong reason I can think of why I thought of her so much after we broke up was that I couldn't have her. I hate feeling obsessed over someone and I hate myself for acting unresponsibly to people that truly likes me.