I'm not quite sure what to make of this thread.
It seems to me that some of the INFJs in this thread are noticing a consistent pattern that they're "passed up" for other options in relationships. My first inclination is to think if you partners are consistently doing this there maybe some kind of misattribution going on here. Consistently being the one that got away? That doesn't make sense. Could it be some of the INFJs who have this problem are expressing some something that is scaring people off?
I'm also not seeing how this is type specific.