Ooof, what I really meant by my statement was that, of all the crazy rambling and input from members on this thread, it seems to be that really only the type to understand what point I was trying to get across to discuss were other INFJ. I should've said something along the lines of, "for serious discussion between INFJ only," because this thread sure is getting convoluted and is beginning to exhaust me trying to keep up.
+1 but ouch girl! i wouldn't do that shit to you!! i want the other half of my bff charm heart necklace back now i think...i mean...you've really done it now!
Awright, awright, ye've made yer point! *clings to charm* MINE! MINE! Will you forgive me if I flick Protean's junk instead? I'm really pretty open to flicking any forum member's junk (except Haight who might destroy me)! Don't leave me this way, woman!
eNFJ 4w3 sx/so 468 tritype
EII-Fi subtype, Ethical/Empath, Delta/Beta
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I feel like I need to try to make my suggestion clear again... this thread has gone in a completely different direction than I expected or intended it to:
The INFJ personality seems to be taken for granted in a relationship (and I think this might have to do with age/experience/maturity), and the mate moves on because he/she doesn't fully appreciate the qualities of the INFJ. Later on, as age/experience/maturity progresses, the ex-mate realizes that their ex-INFJ is something quite special, and doesn't easily find their lasting qualities in other mates. That is to say, that I'm wondering if it's common for other INFJ to have experienced this... being passed up, and then later told that their ex-mate regrets letting go of what they had.
Of course, it is experienced with all types, I imagine, but my suggestion is that it might be more common with the INFJ. The point is to have a discussion among other INFJ to see if there is a common thread and to understand why it seems to happen so often.
That'll probably be my last attempt to get everyone to understand what this thread was supposed to be about. Getting kinda frustrated...
Hey, an INTJ here. I'm not sure I belong in this conversation as the "relationships are their achilles heal - INTJ" type but what the hey. I think we INTJs are probably the closest to the INFJ without being one...that intense Ni preference and all. My problem is having the game to get into the relationship. Once I'm there I've always been quite comfortable. I've never had a regret after leaving a relationship, but don't she ever did either.
I am surprised that no one has asked what kind of personalities these "regret" guys had? That seems really relevant. The common denominator may lie there. So, INFJs, tell us about these guys...
That is if this conversation is still alive. I had to really start skimming to catch up before posting.
I've never dated an INFJ. I am intrigued and frightened by you at the same time. The one confirmed potential INFJ mate I knew also frightened me, but more than she intrigued me. I don' think she was a healthy one.
Well I'm still trying to recover from one INTJ girl breaking my heart. So I can't say my views on the prospects of INFJ-INTJ relations is very positive.
I'll say this: I'm somewhat stuck in between a rock and a hard place here. On one hand, I don't really want her back in my life, yet at the same time I can't completely forget about her either. A colleague said it was a conflict between my Ni and Fe. My Ni has moved on, but my Fe hasn't.