I have one question for NFs (and SFs) I know that I made one similar thread here not so long ago but I think this one will be more to the point.
I know that it is not OK to hurt peoples feeling, especially on purpose.
But to me it looks that there is a fear or even paranoia that you will hurt someone. I know that when I talk to someone, they can say things like "But that could hurt his/her feelings!" about the third party.
Why do you so much care not to hurt someone, that you will even put some bigger things in a risky situation?
Do you do it because you know how would you feel in their situation and base desicion on that?
Why would you find nonemotional reaction in highly emotion situations disturbing? From what I have seen Fs have this tendency and exactly in this kind of situations you can see how much T I am.