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    I am very puzzled ,because as an ENFJ, I think I am very frankly. if I am gotta say something ,then i will say it without hesitate. And I think i will never lie,even though something maybe will make others uncomfortable.
    But ,This is only my own's view. one of my friends is an INTJ, He said i am too indirect about everything. so ,confused! here, I am thinking that maybe as an INTJ he can't recognise my direct way of doing things.
    so , here i want to know as an ENFJ, how do you think of yourself ?
    or, if you have knew some ENFJs, how else do you think of them ?

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    EF's wanna get along with people, hence they might not lie but they certainly will 'dress it up'. That's what your friend meant.
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    I've only known one ENFJ (that I know of) and I'm not sure if he wasn't direct enough or I was too clueless to pick up on his directness.

    In matters of pursuing me, he was way too subtle for me to pick up what he wanted, and an ENFP was in my life around the same time who was very very direct so the ENFJ lost out because he wasn't direct enough for me. I then found out through my friend that he had been trying it on with me and I hadn't been aware at all.

    But I really am quite clueless about what anyone wants from me, I won't know someone likes me til they say it in a way I can identify, or it's blatantly clear in other ways.

    Maybe it was just that specific ENFJ who had trouble with being direct.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    EF's wanna get along with people, hence they might not lie but they certainly will 'dress it up'. That's what your friend meant.
    'dress it up' yea, i think it is right. in this case,he is right.

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    An INTJ will call an ENFJ indirect because an ENFJ will, from time to time, with a good heart and cheerful smile, make choices for the people around them without announcing them.

    And it's only a problem if an ENFJ also works hard at making those choices stick. INTJs prefer to choose for themselves.

    ENFJs, if they want to rule, have to make sure their intuitions encompass enough of the world.


    Well, no--they don't have to, not really.

    It's up to them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hap View Post
    I am very puzzled ,because as an ENFJ, I think I am very frankly. if I am gotta say something ,then i will say it without hesitate. And I think i will never lie,even though something maybe will make others uncomfortable.
    But ,This is only my own's view. one of my friends is an INTJ, He said i am too indirect about everything. so ,confused! here, I am thinking that maybe as an INTJ he can't recognise my direct way of doing things.
    so , here i want to know as an ENFJ, how do you think of yourself ?
    or, if you have knew some ENFJs, how else do you think of them ?

    I am pretty sure that this is because you don't want to hurt peoples feelings.

    If a large person asks : Do I look fat in this pants ?

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    ENFJ: Not exactlly, this detail here does not look good to but you will be alright.


    INTJ: No, this pants don't make you look fat, you look fat because you are fat. (if INTJ is not wearing a mask)


    This are simplified answers.

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    I'd say the Fe-Ni combination doesn't sound very promising in terms of being direct.
    And an ENFJ I know personally is not direct at all.

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    Stating what you want/need/mean in a sugar-coated, round about way isn't direct. It only causes more confusion.

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