The way I understand being a "feeler" is simply that I put effort into thinking how other people are feeling and how they might see the world especially when this differs from my own view. When behavior looks irrational or inexplicable to me, I step back and keep analyzing ways that it could make sense. What kinds of experiences and assumptions would justify saying or doing something. My first reaction is one of "niceness" often, primarily because it is the safest default since there are typically compelling reasons why people act in whatever way they do. This isn't a moral choice, but the one that makes the most sense in the larger context of interacting. Even though I fail at communicating this at times, it is my consistent goal. Taking the time to listen to people is the most direct way to achieve an understanding of a different perspective. Spending time interacting with expressions of people's inner realities like those found in art, music, literature, poetry, etc. is also a way to develop an understanding of the subjective world.