Try judging the situation with your T. What is really needed?
If you are out to socialize and end up in a nice debate, remember that your first priority is to have a good time. Therefore yelling at your companions coz they are morons on some topic that happens to come up is not gonna work. That doesn't mean you cannot tell them you disagree, but stop right there, avoid the 'M' word (I know, I dramatized it a bit to make a point)
If you have to get things done, then your T-side is perfect for the job.
If you have a teamwork effort, you try to walk a tight rope. Try to organize everyone as best you can, but realize that you will get more out of them if you spare their feelings. Otherwise it'll be like working with a bunch of stubborn donkeys
Note: this is the theory..I suck at putting it into practice as well