I do appreciate bluntness, so don't be afraid. From my perspective Jennifer, NTPs are just as bad. Just because you can rationalize why you aren't, doesn't mean that you're not!
About INFJs fixing on some aspect of another...um yeah, I do this, because sometimes I feel more acquainted with someone's missing piece. I feel I do have the last puzzle piece and I want to put it in place, because I think it will make them complete and whole.
I noticed you turned your statement around to focus on INFJs when this thread is about Ps, and P-ish tendencies of passive-aggression, phishing, indirectness, manipulation, not being able to face or confront conflict, cowardliness, and therefore thrusting the responsibility of what they want or what they can't confront onto a NJ like me.
Actually Jennifer...your response was exactly the kind of rationalizing avoidance I expected. Thanks!