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    What do you think of INFPs as coworkers, subordinates, or authority figures?
    ...INFPs are best at what they do when you don't criticize them. They're very sensitive to that, and take it as a personal insult instead of the way I think NTJs would think of it as making themselves improve more.
    A little insight if anyone is interested. Criticism tends to get translated to "more rejection". The common advice, "Just be yourself" doesn't seem to work for many INFPs. I too grew up feeling like I was broken, or can't do anything right. Criticism feels like more evidence that I don't fit in. Unconditional Acceptance is huge for me, and I know that practically does not exist. I don't like getting more evidence pointed out to me that if I want to fit in, I will have to become like someone else. Why can't I just be myself and be accepted? I probably over react to criticism. When I have criticism for another, I will rephrase it as a suggestion that may help you work more efficiently or something, and I respond better to that approach, than to criticism. The suggestion feels like, "I am on your team, and I want to help you out" where criticism feels like, "You better get your act together or I am leaving you behind" or something. Is that as clear as mud?

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    How do you respond to authority figures in your life? Do you generally question authority or are you pretty submissive?
    It depends a lot on whether or not i respect, and feel respected by, the authority figures in question. If i deem them worthy of their authority and i feel that my cooperation is beneficial to a cause i support or am at least neutral about, there's no problem and i'll gladly do what i'm told.
    Otherwise... nope it's not something i deal with very well. I'm getting better at it, but it's something that often got me in trouble. Especially in school. I was a rebellious and stubborn little bastard.

    How do you respond to someone talking down to you?
    If a person who doesn't really know me says something, i don't really care. I either shrug it off or tell them to go fuck themselves.
    It doesn't happen very often with people i do care about, so it's hard for me to say how i respond to that in general. The last time someone i gave a shit about said some mean things about me was almost a year ago. I took it personally and felt hurt for a little while, after that i decided she's crazy and let it slide. I contemplated reacting to fix our friendship... i didn't, but i certainly would have if she didn't have a severe case of borderline personality disorder.

    Are you very emotionally reactive? If so, are you emotionally reactive in public or just with those you are comfortable with?
    Not really. I was emotionally reactive and even downright hostile when i was very depressed and abusing all sorts of substances -- mostly to people close to me, but also in public sometimes. But since then i've been fairly stable.

    Do you need a lot of attention in relationships?
    I have very little experience with romantic relationships, so i'm not sure... I need to feel loved, but i also need time alone. I don't consider myself very needy, but perhaps i'm not the right person to decide whether or not i am.

    Are you really sarcastic?
    Sort of. I like to make a sarcastic remark occasionally, but i try to refrain from cynical snarkasm -- that's just bitterness disguised as humor.

    Are you silly?
    Sometimes, i guess. My friends appreciate my sense of humor, but i'm not sure "silly" is the right word to describe it. The things i say might be silly, my sense of humor is somewhat absurd/surreal, but i tend to be really dry-witted in my delivery. If you mean silly like... dress up like the pope and paint my balls red with a chinchilla dipped in medium spicy salsa as an improvised paintbrush while humming the Bonanza tune... then i guess i am not. Only ENFPs do that sort of thing.

    Were you shy as a child?
    I was fairly shy and i still am, kind of. But it was much worse in my teens.

    Do people mistake your reservedness for aloofness?
    Yeah, sometimes. But those who know me know that i'm not indifferent. I'm only reserved in a group though, in one-on-one conversations i'm actually pretty intense.

    Do you have a hard time expressing yourself verbally?
    Sometimes. I guess it depends on what it is i'm trying to say. I got a lot better at it the past couple of years.

    Have you always felt as though you were at the same mental age as your chronological peers?
    I have no idea. How old do i feel mentally? Beats me... I don't feel any different than 5 years ago, except that i'm not feeling miserable anymore. But i don't feel older. I've always felt somewhat disconnected to most people, but i don't think mental age has much to do with that.

    Are you a talented writer?
    I've been told that i am, but it's a skill i've never cultivated.

    What do you want to be when you grow up (career)?
    I've never been able to answer that question. I'm 29 and i still don't know for sure. I've tried a couple of things... but nothing i could see myself doing for the rest of my life.
    Although recently i've worked a few days with a friend of mine and i really envy him. He works in nature preservation, basically he's a forest ranger. This guy actually gets paid to walk around and check for rare animals. Get in a little boat, see how the barnacle goose population is doing, talk to some farmers, have a picknick, step in some cow shit... etcetera. Awesome. Such freedom, no stress, no real deadlines, no corporate bullshit... It's just really laid-back and nature puts me in a tranquil state of mind. I'd love to do that, but sadly they mostly work with volunteers. I'm going to try though. I guess i'll just start as a volunteer.
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    soms heb ik geen zin om die koffers te dragen,
    ik laat los, los het op, word onzichtbaar
    en geef de buitenlucht wat ruimte terug
    dus.. nu zit ik op m'n fiets alsof het niets is,
    maar niets kan toch niet uit zichzelf pedalen laten draaien?

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    How do you respond to authority figures in your life? Do you generally question authority or are you pretty submissive?
    I do not have any authority figures in my life. I question excessive authority.

    How do you respond to someone talking down to you?
    I would "sniff" prudely and walk away, or get provoked. If it happens at work, I hold my tongue, but every ounz of my body wants to bite that persons head off, and I would constantly think about how I could improve what happened if it was to occur again. People usually don't talk down to me.

    Are you very emotionally reactive? If so, are you emotionally reactive in public or just with those you are comfortable with?
    I don't show emotions in public, nor in private, it's all very internal. I'm not comfortable with showing emotions, to anyone.

    Do you need a lot of attention in relationships?
    No, not attention. But affection and intimacy.

    Are you really sarcastic?
    50/50?

    Are you silly?
    Yeah, and sometimes rude (unintentionally).

    Were you shy as a child?
    I was just as shy as everyone else at a young age. In my teens, the only shyness left was about the opposite sex, and it stuck.

    Do people mistake your reservedness for aloofness?
    No, they're right when they think I'm being aloof.

    Do you have a hard time expressing yourself verbally?
    Yes.

    Have you always felt as though you were at the same mental age as your chronological peers?
    No, higher.

    Are you a talented writer?
    If this was five months ago I would say yes, but now I'm too foggy.

    What do you want to be when you grow up (career)?
    I am already grown up, and I am... nothing.

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    How do you respond to authority figures in your life? Do you generally question authority or are you pretty submissive?

    How do you respond to someone talking down to you?
    I have little experience in this situation, but I can recall one instance. My father asked me to give him a ride at around 1:00 am and I agreed. He called me after to tell me directions, and was cussing at me incessantly. I teared up a bit and then told him he could either walk home 15 miles or talk respectfully to me and get a ride. Of course, this situation is with someone I am comfortable with. It depends on the person, but usually I would walk away.

    Are you very emotionally reactive? If so, are you emotionally reactive in public or just with those you are comfortable with?
    I'm highly sensitive. But I rarely show my emotions, including to those I am comfortable with.

    Do you need a lot of attention in relationships?
    I have yet to find someone that I want to be in a relationship with. So this question has to go unanswered.

    Are you really sarcastic?
    Somewhat. I don't like being too sarcastic when around people. I often feel guilty and ashamed of myself after, especially if it offends anyone.

    Are you silly?
    Incredibly so around my closest friends.

    Were you shy as a child?
    Yes. I am also an only child and spent most of my time alone.

    Do people mistake your reservedness for aloofness?
    Sometimes, but I am often aloof in the first place.

    Do you have a hard time expressing yourself verbally?
    Yes, I have been to the point where it was painful to talk to anybody. Especially, because most did not understand the point that I tried to get across.

    Have you always felt as though you were at the same mental age as your chronological peers?
    No, I connect more with adults and people much older than myself.

    Are you a talented writer?
    I've never been to good with words, whether it be speaking them or writing them.

    What do you want to be when you grow up (career)?
    I dream of being an Illustrator and going to RISD. It is my one passion, and the only aspect of my being that has stayed constant throughout my life.

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    How do you respond to authority figures in your life? Do you generally question authority or are you pretty submissive?
    I don't like to question anyone's authority, unless they're obviously doing something wrong and mostly everyone agrees with me.

    How do you respond to someone talking down to you?
    Maybe they're right? It actually depends on who talks down on me.

    Are you very emotionally reactive? If so, are you emotionally reactive in public or just with those you are comfortable with?
    I am, but I don't like to show it. It I lose my temper, then who will other see me as? Maybe a charging lion.

    Do you need a lot of attention in relationships?
    No, I'd rather give all the attention to the other person

    Are you really sarcastic?
    Not if It's at someone's expense

    Are you silly?
    I like to laugh, but I'm not completely insane

    Were you shy as a child?
    I'm still shy now. My friends say that they have trouble getting me to say more than ten words a day.

    Do people mistake your reservedness for aloofness?
    No, not really. Only briefly, when they first meet me.

    Do you have a hard time expressing yourself verbally?
    No. I just have to think about how the other person will react to what I'm about to say and if I should say it at all. It just takes a little thinking, but silence is golden.

    Have you always felt as though you were at the same mental age as your chronological peers?
    I always felt like they knew something I didn't, but I knew things they didn't. But now, I can't really think that, since I'm 13 and in college.

    Are you a talented writer?
    Yes, or so I've been told. My teachers say my writing is symbolic, poetic and mystical.

    What do you want to be when you grow up (career)?
    I'd like to be a psychologist, or maybe a human behavioral expert or something.

    If you are not an INFP:
    In My friends' words:

    Do they ever talk too much or too little?
    They won't say more than 2 words a day until you become their best friend. Then you have trouble getting two words into a conversation.

    Do they seem stuck up?
    No, not at all. I think they'd probably jump in from of a moving train to save someone without a second thought.

    Do they seem aloof or just quiet and reserved?
    Just quiet and reserved. But they watch everyone like they're reading a book. And apparently, that book has people's moods and even inner thoughts written all over it. It get annoying when someone you barely know can know things about you that you don't even know.

    Do you think they come off as emotionally unstable?
    A bit. They seem like emotional butterflies, fluttering around from idea to idea.

    In general, how would you profile a male INFP?
    Kind of a sissy, but has a generous, loving heart. They can also be a comedic genius and the life of the party

    In general, how would you profile a female INFP?
    She's imaginative and really feminine. However, she doesn't mind getting dirty (like with dust or mud, not the other way) if she's helping a cause she believes in or observing nature.

    What do you think of INFPs as coworkers, subordinates, or authority figures?
    Oh, wait. INFP authority? doesn't happen. The coworkers love to know how everyone is doing and will probably be the one passing out the homemade get-well card for everyone to sign. They bring homemade treats around the holidays and remember everyone's birthday. They're also the person you can call on to help you with a project if you need them.

    How do you view INFPs in romantic relationships?
    It can get a little scary, as if they completely devote themselves to whoever they're with. Catering to their every need, sacrificing themselves and their own beliefs to make the other person like them. Other times, they can be the sunshine on that person's day.

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    How do you respond to authority figures in your life? Do you generally question authority or are you pretty submissive?
    Depends.

    How do you respond to someone talking down to you?
    It so seldom happens I don't even know...

    Are you very emotionally reactive? If so, are you emotionally reactive in public or just with those you are comfortable with?
    I cry in public, but only talk about it with those I'm comfortable with.

    Do you need a lot of attention in relationships?
    No.

    Are you really sarcastic?
    I tend to be, although I try not to.

    Are you silly?
    Silly silly silly. I think it annoys some people, so I avoid being too silly around them.

    Were you shy as a child?
    Yes.

    Do people mistake your reservedness for aloofness?
    Yes!

    Do you have a hard time expressing yourself verbally?
    Yes.

    Have you always felt as though you were at the same mental age as your chronological peers?
    I didn't feel I was the same mental age as them.

    Are you a talented writer?
    No.

    What do you want to be when you grow up (career)?
    Psychologist.

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    How do you respond to authority figures in your life? Do you generally question authority or are you pretty submissive?

    I respect authority figures, but I feel that I have the right to disagree with them.

    How do you respond to someone talking down to you?

    I usually pretend not to care, but on the inside I feel very hurt. If I'm having an extremely bad day (which is very rare) I might have an emotional outburst.

    Are you very emotionally reactive? If so, are you emotionally reactive in public or just with those you are comfortable with?

    I am very emotionally reactive, but I usually only show my strongest emotions to my family.

    Do you need a lot of attention in relationships?

    I feel unhappy without lots of attention, but I don't ask for it because I don't want to seem too needy.

    Are you really sarcastic?

    No, I generally mean what I say.

    Are you silly?

    When I want to be (which is usually when I'm with my closest friends).

    Were you shy as a child?

    Yes, I was.

    Do people mistake your reservedness for aloofness?

    Sometimes...

    Do you have a hard time expressing yourself verbally?

    Most of the time. What I say never seems to be in line with what I think, and I stutter when I get nervous.

    Have you always felt as though you were at the same mental age as your chronological peers?

    I've always felt older and younger at the same time. As a junior in high school, I still have a childlike sense of wonder, but have more mature interests than a majority of my peers.

    Are you a talented writer?

    Yes, I definately am.

    What do you want to be when you grow up (career)?

    I want to be an author and illustrate my own books. I also want to design book covers.

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    How do you respond to authority figures in your life? Do you generally question authority or are you pretty submissive?
    - I look myself as an authority figure too, so I do believe in myself but I can accept other as authority figure if they're suitable enough. Then, I'll be a submissive person when I do accept them.

    How do you respond to someone talking down to you?
    - HOW DARE YOU TALK TO ME LIKE THAT!? DO YOU THINK YOU'RE GOOD ENOUGH TO CALL ME THAT BAD!?
    Meh, my aggressive side tend to come alive when someone do that to me. But if it was from who I respect, maybe I'll be annoyed but try to understand if I was doing bad or not. I'll ask them back and have debate for a while then.

    Are you very emotionally reactive? If so, are you emotionally reactive in public or just with those you are comfortable with?
    - When I'm annoyed or angry, yes. Well, I can have apathetic expression in any situation but people could sense my emotion from conversation and voice tone.
    I say what I think and feel honestly all times. I'd like to be alone if interesting stuffs aren't around me. Including people, activities and such. But yes, I'll become more comfortable when things I want at a time are being with me.

    Do you need a lot of attention in relationships?
    - I'd like to do skinship with lover often times. I'm not interested in another activities though it's fine if they want me to go along with.
    I haven't got a date though, so it may different if I have once.

    Are you really sarcastic?
    - If I'm in bad mood, yes. I have a habit teasing on other though it's for fun in friendship.

    Are you silly?
    - Yes in some way. I easily trust other's words so...my seniors/ the experts like to make fun of me. Wordplay always get me confused because of that too.

    Were you shy as a child?
    - No, In fact I was extroverted once when I was a child. (I had the result as ENFP then) I could be friendly with anyone easily. But the social around me was so hard that I then fond in personal stuffs and became more reserved person.

    Do people mistake your reservedness for aloofness?
    - I guess yes in the first impression with me. Since INFPs are kind of locked fancy room. Some may decorate their door a bit. But you'll know our true form after you open the door and look inside the room.

    Do you have a hard time expressing yourself verbally?
    - Although I always show my sincerity, I do have hard time with them too. My feeling can drive my mind and it makes me become nervous.
    I'd bite my tongue sometime too, LOL!

    Have you always felt as though you were at the same mental age as your chronological peers?
    - I don't know. I feel like everyone do have older side and younger side in each one including myself as well. It depends on experiences, intelligence and mentality.

    Are you a talented writer?
    - I think I am. I haven't been writing for a time though I'm still writing some plots those occurring in my head.

    What do you want to be when you grow up (career)?
    - Freelance, a writer or illustrator would be great enough for me. I'd be fine to be plant trader since I like to do gardening too. Owner of cafeteria sounds great too.
    I'm fond of freedom life, so that's why the reason I like these kind of job.
    ~A cat walk through the way~

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    How do you respond to authority figures in your life? Do you generally question authority or are you pretty submissive?
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    How do you respond to someone talking down to you?
    If we're on close, equal footing, just call it out. I must have considered my parents to be on equal footing with me when I was a child, lol - just people, just like me. If we're not close but work together with regularity, tell them how they're coming off and ask them what's up/if they intend it. If we're complete strangers, close up my mannerisms and become businesslike, and then let that be the last time I intentionally interact with this person.

    This is insulting to me, and I can get caught up in taking responsibility for it - wondering if I came off as too soft or submissive. I'm overly on guard for that kind of behavior in myself because I was incredibly timid as a youth and paid for it in so much dignity.

    The most infuriating example of all talking down would be along the lines of "That's not worth thinking/feeling about."

    Are you very emotionally reactive? If so, are you emotionally reactive in public or just with those you are comfortable with?
    Mainly just with those I'm comfortable with, though it's not unknown to break out publicly. In any case, very reactive. The only person in my family I shared this trait with was my mother, and even she gave me a lot of messages that my temperament was abnormal, ridiculous, too much. Maybe it is. As an adult, I'm much more careful where it is dispensed, not expecting my emotions to be welcome at fullness, and I'm certainly surprised when I run into people who resemble me in this respect. But I'm not ashamed of the emotions and crave opening them up as tricky as it is to get past the inhibitions. I'm hard to get to know because I don't want to hurt anyone.

    Do you need a lot of attention in relationships?
    No, not enough for most people to even live with me, but I need the attention there is to really count.

    Are you really sarcastic?
    No. I understand it, but I don't prefer it as a form of humor unless I want to use it pretty lightly. This is maybe because sarcasm tends to be used to comment on things the user disapproves of, and I have no humor for what I dislike. Straight disgust? Suuuuure. The jokes come when the subject is something or somebody I feel affection for, and are typically rooted in under/overstatement, incorrect facts, or broken aesthetics. Humor actually has expanded the range of things in this world that I can appreciate, making me less elitist as time goes on.

    I don't do cynicism in general, only about individuals who are representative of some specific, personal broken trust. I spend time around a whole lot of cynical people; even where there are objective reasons to be cynical, the others have that covered already and more. When I get disillusioned with humanity, it doesn't run dry or cold - more like love frustrated. "You fools. You irresistible fools." *slaps human race* *kisses human race* Detachment grates on me, though I'm not innocent of using it.

    Are you silly?
    This is more like me.

    Were you shy as a child?
    I was in some denial of it, but yes. I still am.

    Do people mistake your reservedness for aloofness?
    If I care what someone thinks, I will not be reserved with them in the first place. But that's now. I think this may have been the source of some authority figures assuming the worst of me when I was a child in school. I was well-behaved and didn't get into any systemic trouble, but some of them just seemed to smell something icky on me, and I didn't understand why at the time. Others, however, I got on very well with and was on greater terms with them than just as a student. I tended to stick out to authority one way or another, perhaps because I tried to on some level.

    Do you have a hard time expressing yourself verbally?
    Yes and no. I'm decent with words, but there's only so much that can help. I feel very articulate when with someone I click with or otherwise am close to/trust, but awkward and dull if there's no such bond.

    Have you always felt as though you were at the same mental age as your chronological peers?
    No, never. I was told a lot by adults as I was growing up that I seemed ahead of others, more mature, but I've always felt like a younger soul than those around me. I've felt mentally/emotionally younger than even my younger siblings. Not sure why this is.

    Are you a talented writer?
    Yes. But not as well-read as I should be. When I read something by somebody my age or with similar interests, it makes me enviously sick, and it's difficult to finish. This competitiveness made it hard to do any arts in a classroom setting when I was young, too - always with one eye on whoever I felt second best to, introjecting them. This will eventually bite me in the ass. It may already be doing so.

    What do you want to be when you grow up (career)?
    Yes.
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    How do you respond to authority figures in your life? Do you generally question authority or are you pretty submissive?

    A: Internally, I am constantly questioning authority, but when it comes to taking action I'm pretty submissive. Oddly, the few times I'm not going with the flow people are generally accommodating.

    How do you respond to someone talking down to you?

    A: Well, I know I am a sensitive person. So I try to label "hurtful down talk" as "constructive criticism" in my mind, the "bully" and "someone trying to be helpful". This has helped with about 99% of all perceived down talking, especially at work and with my mother! I'll try and explain my thoughts and feelings behind my actions, and express thankfulness to them for their opinion and help, even if I don't agree with it and have no intentions of changing. The other 1% of the time I'll lash out with some kind of personal emotional attack on the person, and feel guilty about it for days.

    Are you very emotionally reactive? If so, are you emotionally reactive in public or just with those you are comfortable with?

    Internally I am. People I'm comfortable with know I'm an emotionally reactive person. In public, not at all. Everyone doesn't need to know how I feel about things.

    Do you need a lot of attention in relationships?

    Yes, but I don't need to be entertained all the time. "I want to see you today" doesn't mean "I want you to listen to me ramble/take me out/ spend money on me today"

    Are you really sarcastic?

    Yes

    Are you silly?

    Yes.

    Were you shy as a child?

    My math teacher described me to my mother as 'painfully shy' in high school.

    Do people mistake your reservedness for aloofness?

    Yes. But quiet people are often mistaken for things they're not because we don't really give on lookers much to work with.

    Do you have a hard time expressing yourself verbally?

    It depends on who I'm with. I'm most articulate when talking with someone one on one, and verbally paralyzed in group settings.

    Have you always felt as though you were at the same mental age as your chronological peers?

    Depends on what subject matter we're talking about. I feel older than most people in areas, and like a newborn in others.

    Are you a talented writer?

    Really, it depends on who's reading.

    What do you want to be when you grow up (career)?

    Some kind of counseling, teaching, or research.

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