One of the earliest childhood feelings I remember was a hatred reaction to being told what do do. When I got out into the world, though, I was far less resistant than I was with intimates. I still felt that snap inside, but didn't feel I had a choice about submitting because for some reason I also felt too sensitive, like others could easily break me if they confronted me. I behaved well to protect my feelings, not for any greater good, and I did not respect myself for it. I'd turn my anger against myself or express it by overworking myself - either authority would see me burn out and regret destroying me, or I would become so good at what I did that they wouldn't be an authority anymore. This is obviously very unhealthy, which I was.
Today, I maintain integrity by not getting/staying involved in things I don't agree with and civilly evening with authority figures as soon as possible when they have overstepped a reasonable boundary, as well as having a more nuanced understanding of when authority is in my best interests whether or not it superficially appears so. If I have an idea of how to do something that makes more sense than a piece of minor protocol, I may well go ahead with it to see if there will be any pushback. Often, there's not.
I used to dislike impersonal protocol, things done in tradition or out of nebulous social consensus as opposed to personal requests coming from a deliverer I have a relationship with or passed on from an individual important to them. I often wanted to ask others "Who told you that X is right? Can you name them? Do you love them?" Since then, I have educated myself heavily on social etiquette and have come to a peaceable understanding of why most of it is done, able to choose what I'm okay with following and know/accept the consequences of differing.
I've never been in trouble with the law or for breaking any major rules at school or at home, mainly because my interests just don't really lie in activities that tend to get people in big trouble. I minimize my time around structure, though, preferring to do my own thing where it won't get in the way of anyone or anything. I dislike exercising authority over others and have never been bossy, but am capable of organizing when it's my job or it's for a cause.
When I and someone else are at an equal level under the same authority, I'm not the person who reminds others of what the authority told them to do when I see them faltering, though might offer help or defense if I'm in a situation where the compliance of one affects the interests of all including myself. Except I'm not, because I avoid those kinds of group activities like they were slathered with ebola. This is because if someone on my level repeats an authority figure to me, I feel like biting them. Way more anger than I'd feel toward receiving direction from the authority figure themselves. My immediate reaction is to feel it's not their business: if I'm not complying, I'm doing so having considered and accepted the risks. I refrain from acting out my emotional reaction because I have learned that such people often mean what they do altruistically, or are acting in their own interests because individuals in the situation are more interconnected than I may have thought. It's very frustrating to know that my self-expression will cost those around me, but let me know, and I will assume no entitlement to satisfaction at their expense. Like others have said: I'm oblivious, not willfully selfish. Just tell me, and I will do the fair thing until it's over. And then le run to a more independent pursuit where I can actualize what I intended without the harm. I can moderate this issue as smoothly as I want, but it'll always be a button deep down.