Actually, I have it the wrong way around: what I said is my theory, and real life can do better than MY theory, not least because my theory is based on a relatively shallow understanding of MBTI stuff and on some stuff I've seen.
And I was thinking about INFJs. The INFJ in the pool table story is a friend and I like her, and we can talk, especially if the topic is people, but she makes me nervous all the same. Fe just is a hammer to my poor sweet little 3rd function Fi, maybe because it is "i" and it's 3rd. But when she and I talk, if the topic is people or me or herself, then she's digging into her 3rd function too, which would be Ti. Then I guess my Te is a bit of a hammer on that for her too.
Or something like that.
INFPs have Te as a 4th function. Unconscious, uncontrolled, jumping up only when FiNe are doing best what they do best. Making them really strong on Te if and only if sensitive feeling stuff is satisfied. So, as far as I understand this bastard version of MBTI of mine, it makes (coherent theory) sense that they add in good stuff pretty much exactly where the ENTJ wants it and can't control for themselves--the missing piece to a really good, really satisfying leap into immediate action.
And once again, this is theory, theory, theory. Supposedly for optimising outcomes. What people choose to put their heart and effort into in real life is more valuable, if only because it's what they choose, and choice is valuable.