Help, my 17yr old ENFP brother is unbelievably depressed and I can't seem to help him get out of it.
He has made some really bad judgement calls in the last year (of the criminal kind) and has really messed up his life. He is homeless and is now living with me and I can't motivate him in the slightest to try to take back some control in his life.
He has no idea what he wants to do with himself, but he has to do something because I can't afford to keep him in the style he has become accustomed to (thanks to criminal activities). He is really depressed and everything sounds unappealing to him.
If he screws up again he will end up in prison and I really don't want to see him end up that way.,
He seems to have no patience on obtaining things the old fashioned way, which I understand via the peer pressure he is under, but I need him to snap out of it for his own sake.
What works in motivating an ENFP to grab control back at that age?
What would you as an ENFP need, or you as someone dealing with an ENFP say or do to help him balance out?
Of course I don't want to meddle or seem controlling, I want to give him free reign in his own life to make mistakes and learn from them, but then again there are some mistakes, like the ones he is making now, that he will not be able to bounce back from so easily. Like a criminal record and what that could do to his future career.