Well, as an ENFP female I find I'm less confident with charming women than men, mostly. I dunno, put me in a group of 20 guys and I have a blast, and considering how sweet they are to me, I'd say they feel the same. Add one woman and I am instantly walking on eggshells coz more often than not they tend to be on my case for not being proper and 'considerate' and a teamplayer.
Since I spent most of my time in a group of 20 males between the ages of 17 and 20, I had a lot of practice with flirting, and its the sort of 'charming' I'm best at. I'd love to learn how to do this to women without sending out lesbian vibes *grin*