All I know is - if you do something so hideously bad that it causes me to blanch and then go speechless with anger, there WILL BE NO PHONE CALL. I'm going to very calmly inform you of what you did and then burn you to the waterline on the spot. I don't understand the hostage-taking that Harlow's bf does (or the game playing the two of them seem to enjoy). He sounds impossible to understand. And frankly, if I'm so angry I'm seeing through time, there won't be any dancing around the matter. I've had my SO make me so angry I just stood there shaking for a second, bowing up, until my ISTP friend, Bouncer, grabbed me and literally carried me off so I couldn't verbally shred the guy.
Harlow and her man like trading blows. It's a power cycle. They're happy with it.