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    if there aren't people that are willing to give themselves for the sake of humanity then we are f*cked.
    "Honest differences are often a healthy sign of progress. "

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    You guys are quite right about your notions but isn't it rude to not being thanked after helping a person?

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    Quote Originally Posted by chipy100 View Post
    You guys are quite right about your notions but isn't it rude to not being thanked after helping a person?
    Itís not about rudeness or the other person, itís about you. Do things because you want to do them not for rewards and it wonít matter if the other person says thanks. Seems like youíre looking for justification to blame someone else for not having your expectations met.

    This covers it imo;

    Quote Originally Posted by Tallulah View Post
    it definitely feels good to be needed. And there's really nothing wrong with that. But I've found that doing something kind for someone with absolutely no expectation is the better way to go. At the least, you know you've done something helpful, and you feel good. At best, they're grateful and they tell you/show you/return a favor. But you relieve yourself of the resentment that builds up through creating an expectation.

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    ENFP and Objectivist here. You all suck. Get a job, you hippies.

    Thanks for listening, I <3 you!

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    I know I care too much. It weighs me down.

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    Red face answering the question... ?

    i think this idea that a lot of people on the 'just want a simple thank-you' side are meaning to convey is not that they require a verbal 'thank-you' or a reciprocation of 'the deed' for ego-fulfilling, approval-seeking reasons
    rather: we're left wondering why must it be that when everything we do for (ourselves and) humanity stems from, vague but you'll get the idea: inner happiness, acceptance, forgiveness,
    and leaves our entire environment (both inner and outer realities) in harmony at peace with one another, and so many other humans witness this acknowledge and give praise to it all the time,
    our ultimate goal is never realized. What we want is for fellow human beings to want to start applying similar concepts to their way of living instead of watching us try and fix things and just telling us we're doing a great job at it.

    read that again if it didn't make sense the first time. it was hard trying to make sentences.
    and i can't think of any really good examples or analogies.
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    So you were born, and that is a good day.
    And someday you'll die and what a shame.
    But somewhere in the between, theres a life in which we all dream,
    And nothing and no one will ever take that away.

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    Yes. I'm not expecting much in return, if not anything, but in the end it never feels worth it.

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