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    Quote Originally Posted by GargoylesLegacy View Post
    I agree very strongly.
    From Experienca I can say, how much I always worked my Ass off for others and how they never even had a simple "Thanks" left for me. People were using me very often. So somewhen I made a simple Decision:
    I will do Stuff for People, but if after a certain Time NOTHING comes back (and I just mean simple "Thank you"s or so), I will just stop. Until they prove to me they are worth it.
    Hard, but fair I'd say.
    I am glad I am not alone in my experience.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chipy100 View Post
    I am glad I am not alone in my experience.
    Nah, you aren't alone on this. I guess some People just try to be helpful but Todays Humans don't really appreciate it anymore. They just keep taking and taking and don't give Anything back, then when you go Berserk on them and ask, why in Hell they are so selfish and greedy they either go all emo on you, don't care at all or "promise to get better" but never do. That's what I have been seeing.

    Don't get me wrong, I don't help People for the Fame or so, I just do because in my Past I often DID need Help and Noone bothered to care, so I wanted to make feel People different. And I am okay with it, if People don'T say thanks every Time, but dam, if you help Someone out 100 Times and he just keeps taking without a nice Word, sooner or later it gets frustrating. I just don't understand why People can't do Something simple like say "Thanks" for once.

    So, yep, I can relate I guess, even as an INTJ.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chipy100 View Post
    I always feel that we care too much about humanity while the same people we care for are very selfish. I guess my questions should be do people just use us for personal gain?
    = martyr.
    So stop already. Or stop complaining. It's really very simple.

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    = martyr.
    So stop already. Or stop complaining. It's really very simple.
    You know, I'd say it is less of a complaining and more of a "getting a bit frustrated", since it would be so easy for People to say thanks.

    Me myself, I still help People if they need Anything (italian Genes, that's just how we are), but - as I already said - if they use me too much, it will have Consequences.

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    Just a simple thanks is all I ask. Nothing more.

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    i care about humanity too much. im being used. oh no.

    btw Gandhi is awsome.
    "Honest differences are often a healthy sign of progress. "

    "You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty."

    "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind."

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    Quote Originally Posted by chipy100 View Post
    Just a simple thanks is all I ask. Nothing more.
    I feel you, Pal. Ah well, soooome Day..

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    Quote Originally Posted by bluemonday View Post
    = martyr.
    So stop already. Or stop complaining. It's really very simple.
    Easy for you to say.
    You can't always do it right, you can always do what's left.

    Thoughts rearrange. Familiar now strange. All my skin is drifting on the wind.~

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    Humanism is great. The advancement of civilization depends on it.

    Secular Humanism FTW.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bluemonday View Post
    = martyr.
    So stop already. Or stop complaining. It's really very simple.
    +1,000

    If you're helping people with the attitude of "I'll help you, but all I ask is this one simple thing. A thank you," people will sense that you're not really doing it out of love or altruism or just being a cool guy, but that you're doing it to GET something out of the other person. No one likes a martyr. I help people all the time, but I can pretty much tell who's there to suck me dry, and who genuinely needs and will appreciate the help. And sometimes people just need help, regardless of whether they're in a position to fall all over my feet in gratitude or not. I think you need to ask yourself why you're helping others. Is it really for them, or for you to feel needed?

    I was on a music-related message board and someone had offered copies of some cool high-res pics to the members there, if they'd PM an email. So I did, and thanked her graciously. A few days later, she posted a big emo message about how NO ONE had said please or thank you for these pictures, and what has this world come to, etc., etc. I reminded her that, yes I had, in fact, thanked her. And I also reminded her that if you just tell someone to PM you an email address, that's probably what people will do. You can't create unspoken rules and then get bent out of shape when people don't comply to them. If you do, you'll become very disillusioned, very quickly.

    Stop and ask yourself if there might be other reasons why you're not getting the reactions you're after.

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