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    Default ENFPs accidentally offending people?

    Does anyone notice if ENFPs sometimes accidentally offend other people by mouthing off too quickly without thinking through their words properly?

    I'm not sure if its just me or its a general ENFP trait.. Lol its probably just me, but I'm just curious to see if other people happen to experience this as well.

    Sometimes I talk quite fast and then I realize I might have said something potentially offensive. (maybe I'm more of an ENTP in this manner? I ask quite a lot of questions and possibly offend people by asking about their beliefs/thoughts.. my questions could be taken as challenging other people's beliefs when I'm trying to understand their stand/point of view more thoroughly?)

    [if that sounds too convoluted I apologise!! ]

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    One ENFP guy I know is quite blunt with people. He asks lots of questions and afterwards wonders if he might have offended someone. He also enjoys playing devil's advocate, but only to understand the situation more thoroughly. I think that's great!

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    I haven't noticed this with ENFPs, but speak first, think later is characteristic of an ESFP friend of mine.
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    As an INFP who operates in the extroverted social realm, I know that it's important for me to think before I speak. I do this with varying degrees of success depending on how enthusiastic I feel about a subject and with whom I'm speaking.
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    I know ENFP's who do this. One specifically tends to make big assumptions about what you are thinking or what you are about to say, and then does a big rant reacting to what she thinks you are saying. She has tried putting words in my mouth on several occasions, followed by a semi-stuck up "well guess what, you're wrong!" type mouthing off speach. She is completely wrong about what I was going to say or what I was thinking every time, so I just say "No." and walk away laughing.

    It's not that she doesn't think through things, it's that she talks and thinks before she has gathered all, or sometimes even any information. It's kind of frustrating, she is one of the people I talk to on a daily basis (we have classes together) we're we completely misunderstand eachother constantly

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    Quote Originally Posted by calfienotion View Post
    One ENFP guy I know is quite blunt with people. He asks lots of questions and afterwards wonders if he might have offended someone. He also enjoys playing devil's advocate, but only to understand the situation more thoroughly. I think that's great!
    i do this on a continual basis. ive recently learned to tone down my ENFPness so that i dont piss people off.
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    i occasionally...or a lot...haha...say embarrassingly inappropriate things but i typically don't offend people that i don't intend to...but if you know me well...and you're being a jerk...i will tell you without a second thought...actually...even if i don't know you and you're being a jerk to someone else
    but...it's more of a blunt observation then an actual judgment
    and i'm usually pretty aware of how i'm being perceived so...i can tone it down...i'm almost always just kidding or being silly anyway

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    I've notice the tendency for ENFPs to complain about the fact that they accidentally offend people.

    Truth be told, I'm rarely offended by what ENFPs say. I find it funny when they're constantly apologising to me for supposedly offending me, when in fact they did no such thing.

    The closest I've seen is when some ENFPs actually attempt to be offensive, and yet just end up being nagging irritations. Of course I would only count two ENFPs I've met in this category.

    As for the vast majority of other ENFPs, I just find it hard to be offended by you guys. I can't explain it really, it's just the nature of your type.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GZA View Post
    I know ENFP's who do this. One specifically tends to make big assumptions about what you are thinking or what you are about to say, and then does a big rant reacting to what she thinks you are saying. She has tried putting words in my mouth on several occasions, followed by a semi-stuck up "well guess what, you're wrong!" type mouthing off speach. She is completely wrong about what I was going to say or what I was thinking every time, so I just say "No." and walk away laughing.

    It's not that she doesn't think through things, it's that she talks and thinks before she has gathered all, or sometimes even any information. It's kind of frustrating, she is one of the people I talk to on a daily basis (we have classes together) we're we completely misunderstand eachother constantly
    Wow that's funny I think I've encountered an ENFP just like that. Does she hind behind emotional walls all the time and proclaim you're an asshole if she doesn't like you?

    I thought It was just my NTness that was the cause of disagreement but apparently not...
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    ^^^ haha...that's probably true...i think i'm always afraid of offending people...what is that!!?? weird...haha

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