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    Default How intense are we talking about here??

    Theres an INFJ in my life who I really like. Adore them! And when I meet people like this, people that I make an instant connection with, I can be pretty intense, I like to get intimate very quickly (In a friendship sense) and like to arrange to do things with these people etc etc. (You know the ENFP drill I'm sure)

    The thing is I really think I have met my match here and feel a little out of my depths. My weekends are evapourating before my very eyes as is my spare time in general.... And then there is the sensitivity. I feel that I can't say no to anything because the person will take it that I do not like them and as it is still quite early on in the relationship I think they are still a little unsure of my regard for them.

    I just don't know if I can hack the pace of a friendship of this degree of intensity. I have not had many experiences with this type before and I need some help! Does the situation I have just decribed sound familiar?? What should I do??

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    What are your intentions with this INFJ, long-term and short-term?
    "The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things." - Rainer Maria Rilke

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    I guess you will get a lot of good hints and answers here.

    But in the long run, if you want the thing to work, you eventually have to face him himself with your questions.
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    I just want to be really great friends with the INFJ I really feel there is a deep connection between us. I don't really know how that translates to long and short term but I just want a great friendship

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    Are you two the same sex?
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    no why?

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    She asks, because she wants to know, why you only want to be friends if you like him so much.

    But I came to understand that you want to let things evolve and just need a better understanding of him, before the evolvement part can start at all.

    Was that right or did I fuck it up ?
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    I believe she's married, which could be ONE reason.

    Re: OP: That's why I like ENFs, you're engaging, so can click with introverts. Es are plugs and Is are outlets. Howerver, whether the blender works or the power's on are always good questions.

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    Damn I knew I fucked it up
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    Just have a conversation and be honest. It might hurt for a second, but the INFJ will likely prefer to know exactly how you're feeling. Most INFJs I've known are obsessed with fixing problems in relationships.

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