Much agree with what you and Udog said about needing a T/F balance in a relationship. From my experiences two Fs together tend to be an emotional roller coaster. While the affection and intimacy seem to be great at the beginning, over time problems crop up that can lead to intensely emotional fights unless the couple also have good use of Ti/Te. Essentially Fs have a tendency to bury or hide problems or to smooth things over without really resolving them. These build up over time until one day the dam breaks.
Well comparing myself with a male INFJ friend I know, I don't think there's any major gender differences between how we use Se. We both enjoy going out there and having fun. I guess the difference would simply be it's likely easier for a man to drag a woman off to an adventure than the other way around strictly from a traditional standpoint where the man usually leads.definitely, i wonder if there is a gender difference too. part of using Se for inj types is letting down your guard. Ni is wary much of the time, defensive, preparing for negative possibilities (as is Si). it can be a bit paranoid. Se feels so light and free, being in the moment, etc. plus the difference, teh uniqueness of experience, texture, colour, taste, etc that you get from sensory information stimulates our imagination. sometimes we lose all sense of taste, so vibrancy is literally a breath of fresh air.