...there might be a lack of communication ...
Why?
...there might be a lack of communication ...
any type can work with any type.
I have trouble with INFPs. To me they lack ambition and are too "P".
I worry that I could run right over them and not even know it.
I lean toward INTJ though so maybe that is why.
Positive: Never been better (NOT perfectly of course) understood with so much patience and appreciation.
Negative: As the lone J, definitely feel put upon "to make the call" on life's decisions.
This doesn't bear true in my relationship. Many times my Te is the only thing that gets anything done around here.
I dated an INFJ years ago - the only guy I've ever been in love with. I loved that we didn't have to talk in order to be on the same page, like scary telepathy. But, he was moody - actually, every NFJ I know is moody - and his feelings, though internalized, really seemed to take him over, like he just couldn't handle them sometimes. It was driving my Fi up the wall. I have to say though, the chemistry was insane.
I wonder if INFP's have the advantage over us ENFP's in the sense that they are more their own island, and can retreat within themselves when someone is moody or difficult. ?
On the boards I seem to clash with female INFJ more often than not (Except TJ). But the masculine male INFJ are easier to get along with. Not sure why this is, just is.
True. However, type may be pre-defined by some of the values (pretty much). Then one can complain, knowing that this type is very rare, that to meet all the other criteria becomes nearly impossible.Forget about type... similar principles and values are way more important.
The pattern in my life that I noticed (as a male with female INFJs) is that to make an INFJ helplessly attracted to you, you have to really stimulate their Se.
Can you elaborate on this?
Agree with both your comments about gender and age/maturity. However you see pretty much the same pattern across all types. I'm not sure if knowing a person's type help much.True. However, type may be pre-defined by some of the values (pretty much). Then one can complain, knowing that this type is very rare, that to meet all the other criteria becomes nearly impossible.
I want to note also how different are INFJs with regard to gender and relationships. Another person usually divides INFJs into male and female - one of the gender groups gets along well with them, and the other - doesn't.
Besides, there's the issue of aging - seems to be critical when we discuss INFJs. Younger INFJs are much more "bitchy", aggressive and intolerant at times. Getting older, they slowly change that. The same drive is still with them, but they put it in a more refined form, as an educated social revolt in a form of teaching of its own.
Drag an INFJ female off to do something different and fun. Take her out hiking, fishing, skydiving (if you can manage that one). Have a fun time without any expectations. Make it a surprise outing if you wish. But that's only after the INFJ is attracted to you.Can you elaborate on this?