also i'm thinking about the people i know of those types in my life. i don't seem to naturally get along with ESFJs as much as the other two.
i think i vibe better with introverts who are less like me than extroverts. extroverted Ne users and NFs seem to flow just fine, and it can feel like supercharged when we get together. i feel like ESFJs and i are often putting out energy that doesn't really jive.