this page, I nearly changed to sx/sp. But having encountered people I think are sx 4s elsewhere, I don't think the competitive, demanding, jealous, more outwardly destructive way of the sx 4 fits me. I am pretty withdrawn in person and can feel like I play it too safe (usually inhibited by shame).
The reason I nearly changed my typing was these parts:
I have rearranged some priorities (ie went against certain values, felt a break of integrity) to pursue the intimacy or intensity I desire, but not in a very outwardly self-destructive way. It would seem tame to most people, but I probably require a level of internal consistency that others don't fret about (another reason I identify as sp 4 - strong connection to e1). It is also probably "held in check" and repressed as far as a concern of it destroying other things important to me. My recent thread on missed opportunities? It doesn't bother me so much to know someone didn't return a romantic interest so much as realizing my interest was inappropriate because the guy was married. From a moral perspective, this bothers me. Most people would probably shrug it off.The dominant variant is the one given top priority, since this is the instinct that the person is most attuned to. It represents an overarching preoccupation, and may even remain overarching in situations where a reasonable person would at least temporarily rearrange his priorities.
There is certain rigidity to this instinct—it is non-negotiable; its needs must be satisfied. We are highly attuned to the needs of this instinct in ourselves and in others, however, as one moves down the health levels, the priorities of this instinct may become overly compulsive. Dominant instinct will grip your attention, cause sleepless nights, it is where your buttons get pushed, where you may start compensating. One may conceal the needs of this instinct and instead put the secondary instinct on display, since primary instinct serves as a greater source of anxiety than the secondary instinct. It may be said that a person comes to embody his or her primary instinct.
The secondary variant provides support to the first instinct. It is much less self-conscious than the dominant instinct. There is more flexibility to it—people generally does not stress as much about this area. They may experiment more in the realm of their second instinct, or just ignore it and put it off for a while.
The application of secondary instinct is creative and even more exhibitionistic than that of the primary instinct. While primary instinct is constantly monitored and held in check, the secondary instinct is allowed to roam freely. Often, one has an exploratory attitude towards secondary instinct and may be inclined to start experimenting in this area—turn it into a hobby or use it to supplement their main occupation. It can be said that while people come to embody their primary instinct, the secondary instinct is akin to a creative field that envelops them.
I think this aspect of myself can be more hidden, except the temperamental nature, as I don't act freely with it at all. I imagine sx 4s a lot....looser, like loose cannons, but I think I am quite controlled in this area, and my temperamental side probably seems unrelated (but I usually know where my anger/frustration stems from).
However, when it comes to sp stuff - I don't stress much, and that includes "bending rules" that probably make me inconsistent according to my own ethical code. I've been totally broke, jobless, nearly homeless, couch surfing - I survive! I don't fret about it because I feel like I have a resilience and adaptability there, as well as a faith. I also see my creativity in physical stuff - my sense of personal style, being a visual person, doing design for a living, etc. But I can be too indulgent, frivolous and a tad defiant with physical stuff, and I probably had mild body dysmorphia when younger (with the face), all of which I associate with an sp 4.
This is spot on too:
My frustrations and obsessions have been in the realm of intimate relationships, as a conscious thing that manifests the most literally, and then there is the social realm as a blindspot that I begrudgingly address when everything else is crumbling. The sp stuff is definitely the most abstract and creative area for me.Secondary instinct gets summoned in aid of primary instinct. In situations where people are not sure that their primary instinct will be welcomed, they often extend and offer 'products' of their secondary instinct by conversing on related topics. Sx/sp and so/sp types may talk about health, monetary, domestic, or culinary topics.
Buuuuut, I think 4s can simply seem very sx-y. General sx descriptions may suit me better than sp ones, but when applied to core 4, it is extreme. Like most 4s, I get fixated on some "other" to fulfill me, prize intimacy, want intensity, etc.Alternative way of looking at instinct stackings:
Primary - The instinct taken in its most literal, concrete sense.
Secondary - The instinct taken in an abstract, creative sense.
Tertiary - This instinct remains dormant, little attention and time are devoted to this area.
Some of this sounds like it is ripped from a 4 profile, but it is a general description of sx:
Also, I don't know if this is my 4 fix talking, but the sp/sx is also a "contra flow" type, whereas sx/sp is supposed to be more connected to humanity, less alienated, etc, and of course I identify with being "contra flow" .sx instinct
- primary concern - intense experiences, connections, and contacts, wide-ranging and exploratory, in order to find something to "complete" them inside (sky diving, deep conversations, exciting movies)
- primary focus - people and attractions promising intense energy and charge
- primary ambition - looking outside themselves for the person or situation that will complete them, and then obsessing over that completing element
- primary stresses - lack of intense mental or emotional stimulation, lack of an intense connection or experience
- coping methods (unhealthy) - scattered attention, lack of focus, sexual promiscuity, intensely avoiding intense experiences and connections with a fearful and dysfunctional attitude toward sex, intimacy, and other intense "completing" experiences, as is skewed by the secondary instinct
I relate pretty well to all the 4's subtypes though. Even though the social instinct is clearly my blindspot in life, I can still find so 4s highly relatable. I used to call so 4 @Southern Kross (where is she?!) my "brain twin".