that im not necessarily inclined to make a good impression... just because im capable of socializing and being amicable doesnt mean that my autonomy isnt extremely important to me. i keep my greatest qualities to myself, usually, or occasionally a stranger that i will never meet again. i guess i have a hard time trusting other people enough to let them see that side of me.
they say the only constant is change, and the only similar certainty i can conclude about myself is that im counter-intuitive. maybe it's one of my few ideologies, but i believe i shouldnt have to try and impress people or draw attention.
on the flipside, i know that despite working so hard to not need anybody else, maybe id be happier if i did, even if just a little. when i was growing up, my mother always told me that no man is an island... i often wonder if that is one rule that i am not an exception to after all.
I identify with this a lot.
Ti (43); Ne (41.8); Te (33.7); Fi (30.5); Ni (27.5); Se (24.7); Si (21.5); Fe (17.3)
The More You Know the Less You Need. - Aboriginal Saying
I think I might be too oblivious to know whether people "get" me or not, unless they're obvious about it. I know when people don't get my sense of humor. If they don't, I usually don't want to be friends with them, because I subconsciously use humor to keep conversations moving, and therefore I have a really hard time talking to people who don't get it. (speaking of which, I have an ENFP friend who I don't "get" to the extent that one of the main reasons why we're friends is that we appreciate each others' sense of humor.)
But back to the OP (because I just had an epiphany about the topic in midstream - sorry!!), people don't get me because of how much I care about getting things done efficiently, quickly and to the best of my ability. They also don't get why I take things really personally sometimes. (That would be because I register even the tiniest things as FAILURE.)
Good thread idea, Sunshine. Can't believe I missed it before. Thanks for sharing everyone.
Some people don't get that I'm really idealistic. I criticize movies and books and ideas- I'm critical all over and they call that jaded and I joke that I "hate all movies". But criticizing/analyzing is just my modus operandi- it doesn't mean I don't enjoy/appreciate good points as well. Ironically, they're often the ones who are jaded -not being able to expect that things can be better than mediocre.