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    Quote Originally Posted by EJCC View Post
    Ha! Probably not the best idea if you're in a social situation where you actually have to impress people, but I've been tempted to do that in places where you're generally expected to be left alone. On the bus is the worst. I'll just say "mm-hmm" or "yeah" a few times and not make eye contact, kind of doing what @Hard suggested -- if that doesn't work, I put my headphones in.
    I love bus conversations.
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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    I love bus conversations.
    I have to be in the right mood for them. And/or the person can't be boring or crazy. Was waiting for the bus with one woman who kept trying to have the same conversation with me over and over again. Was interesting for the first few minutes and I enjoyed talking with her, but then she wouldn't stop repeating the same goddamn points. That's when I started to tune her out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EJCC View Post
    I have to be in the right mood for them. And/or the person can't be boring or crazy. Was waiting for the bus with one woman who kept trying to have the same conversation with me over and over again. Was interesting for the first few minutes and I enjoyed talking with her, but then she wouldn't stop repeating the same goddamn points. That's when I started to tune her out.
    ok yeah, good point. But I say that because I like giving people a chance. if someone talks to me, I'll have a conversation it's awesome actually. I don't start them, but I have had situations where I've been really uncomftable though
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    Quote Originally Posted by EJCC View Post
    I have to be in the right mood for them. And/or the person can't be boring or crazy. Was waiting for the bus with one woman who kept trying to have the same conversation with me over and over again. Was interesting for the first few minutes and I enjoyed talking with her, but then she wouldn't stop repeating the same goddamn points. That's when I started to tune her out.
    ok yeah, good point. But I say that because I like giving people a chance. if someone talks to me, I'll have a conversation it's awesome actually. I don't start them, but I have had situations where I've been really uncomftable though
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Quote Originally Posted by PeaceBaby View Post
    So, a baptism. Aside from the obvious smile and approach, you can start with, "Wasn't the service lovely!" or "The baby didn't cry at all!" or "I enjoyed the music - what was that hymn they played when the family came to the front?"
    Good grief - just thinking of saying this sort of thing makes me want to crawl under a log somewhere.

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    Good luck and enjoy!
    Enjoy? I think I'd prefer a trip to the dentist. Except that those pesky hygienists all seem to expect small talk, and while they have sharp objects in your mouth, to boot.

    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    me I find something that needs to be done (if something needs to be straightened, or cleaned up, anything that will need to be taken care of I will do. so by being busy I don't have stand awkwardly around. And I get told that I'm helpful or whatever. they think I'm being nice, when in reality I just don't want to talk to them.
    I often use this strategy. Or, I simply go somewhere else. In a church, I can usually find a library or parlor where there is something to read, or a piano to play. Once or twice I have minded children in the nursery.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    I often use this strategy. Or, I simply go somewhere else. In a church, I can usually find a library or parlor where there is something to read, or a piano to play. Once or twice I have minded children in the nursery.
    I've been known to just wander off mid-conversation myself. It offends people sometimes, but that's often the enjoyable part.

    Annoyingly most 'events' are nothing but small talk. It's something I hate at weddings, where I have to hunt for people who engage me to avoid insanity. Funerals are actually a bit better sometimes because more things are in the open and people aren't so cloistered by social convention, apart from the social convention that mass grief, and with that the bearing of self that often comes with it, is only ok at funerals of course.

    But then again I'm sure plenty of people would find me very boring to talk to as well so it's swings and roundabouts.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    Good grief - just thinking of saying this sort of thing makes me want to crawl under a log somewhere.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AffirmitiveAnxiety View Post
    Annoyingly most 'events' are nothing but small talk.
    Well, here's the thing - who will be the first person to talk "real"? I have watched a lot of people in my day and listened to many make this same grievance. Yet I do not observe them "getting real" in conversation either. I do not see them taking any risks and being any more themselves than the people they complain about.

    So, idk - is real conversation truly a preference? .
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    Quote Originally Posted by PeaceBaby View Post
    Rome wasn't built in a day. A person has to start somewhere.
    Rome was built in a day though wasn't it? I mean it wasn't completed in a day, but it was established in a single day.

    See how I small talked?

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    Quote Originally Posted by PeaceBaby View Post
    So, idk - is real conversation truly a preference? .
    No more than peoples real smell I would think

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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfy View Post
    Rome was built in a day though wasn't it? I mean it wasn't completed in a day, but it was established in a single day.

    See how I small talked?
    Getting all literal with my epigram. Very nice!

    No more than peoples real smell I would think
    Indeed.
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