If someone does it and then reminds me of it later like I owe them something when I never asked for their coddling in the first place, I'll watch them closely. If it's a pattern with them, then I'll see them as a manipulator and pretty much just be disgusted by them and anything they do in the future. They're not to be trusted when they show a distinct pattern of comments like, "After all, I did..." or "After all I did.."
UGH yeah that's not what I mean. Grossss...
Your kisses, sweeter than honey. But guess what, so is my money.
I am very receptive to this sort of treatment. If I turn it down, it's because I know I stand the risk of getting addicted, particularly if I am in a strained place in life in general, but doing so is not a rule. I recieve it when I can return it and mean it. OP is about meaning it. On the initiating end, I'm not the back rub type but natually behave with gentleness until there comes a reason to change approach.
When in my strength, I draw the line when coddling comes at the expense of truth: when challenge is being witheld from me because someone does not think I will handle it well, especially when treating me this way is exceptional to the way they treat others. I would physically dig through my own open skull to discover exactly what makes me come off as kittenish to these people, but maybe they see through to the above described receptivity without getting the message that I believe the issue at hand is more important than pleasing it. This may be due to my own failure to communicate that message with clarity. When I am at my absolute worst, I will crave special strokes and will withdraw for the duration of the trouble to keep this craving away from others. I hate submissiveness because I know my own capacity for it and what it's really about from the inside. The baby rattlesnake is several times more venomous than the adults.
Some subtle (doesn't even have to be close to back rubs!) interpersonal exchange of feeling signals is essential for orienting myself in situations, whether the communicated atmospheres are positive or not. When they are, I don't think that's what people refer to when they say "coddling", except those people with very low use for it. To some, the exchange is inessential at least, and perhaps even confounding instead of clarifying. Hence, typology.
4w5 6w7 1w2 sx/sp ⏩ ISFP
RLOAX (don't do it) ⏩ Melancholic Hufflepuff
A lonely island where only what is permitted to move moves, becomes an ideal. Jung
All my life I have worked very hard to be completely independent.
and to be dependable
Just to find out that I secretly want to be coddled all the time.
When I read my description of what my "inner child" looks like as an E6....it pretty much described a lazy person (E9)and someone that wants to be entertained. It took me a while to take to the description...but I know thats why I like to be so structured...
It's like I wan't everything to be extremely efficient BECAUSE it' less work in the end for me, hence the inner laziness...
Secretly very much(but no one knows that irl)
I'm that person that embodies pretty much everything that you hate.
Unapologetically bonding in an uninhibited, propelled manner
"Freedom is the right to tell people what they do not want to hear." ~ Eric
I like it in my relationship -- but not all the time. I like how we have 'pampering sessions' where we give and take, and the person being pampered can whine all they like and demand to be fed chocolate. It's fun for both of us.
Coddling from family members makes me feel guilty.
Coddling from other people (co-workers being super extra nice) makes me feel very, very uncomfortable.