it's a fine line for me. i'm very resistant if i feel like i'm being pitied or fussed over. genuine compassion and empathy are a different story.
also, people trying to make me feel better with material things or making me feel "pampered" is a huge turn-off for me. that is very rarely what i want or need, and it feels bothersome to me (although i appreciate the intention, and usually keep to myself just how much i loathe it).
Yeah...this big time. This is probably the biggest thing that keeps me from sobbing or pouring my heart out in front of others (if it happens it was an accident).
Plus coddled sounds like something made with eggs and an obscenity thrown in..."lemme coddle you!" Yech!
My grandparents were primo coddlers and I ate it up with a spoon.
My mom had to make them tone it down or I would have been even more helpless than I am.
“There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged. One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world. The other, of course, involves orcs.” ~ John Rogers
It bothers me to no end, especially when it's someone in my family, because they've always treated me more or less as the baby in the family, even now that I'm in my thirties and have my own kid. I was quite the independent child in many ways, but people have always felt the need to treat me as some sort of fragile kitten. Worse, because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or be called a spoiled brat, half the time I take it and pretend to appreciate it. I am the architect of my own demise.
It depends how it is defined. I love gentle exchanges and so forth, but I'm uncomfortable with certain degrees of pampering that some people enjoy. I have gotten massages, but because of muscle pain and not just gratuitous. I can be rather mothering and coddling in certain ways to anyone I love. There is a sincere aspect of it I can embrace, but there are types of coddling that repulse me. Complex question for me with complex response.
The first man to raise a fist is the man who's run out of ideas. H.G. WELLS
The first principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool. FEYNMAN If this is monkey pee, you're on your own.SCULLY
I love it when in a relationship and it's on both sides. Spoiling each other is fun and feels good and loving. If someone does it and then reminds me of it later like I owe them something when I never asked for their coddling in the first place, I'll watch them closely. If it's a pattern with them, then I'll see them as a manipulator and pretty much just be disgusted by them and anything they do in the future. They're not to be trusted when they show a distinct pattern of comments like, "After all, I did..." or "After all I did.."