And I cannot disagree more on what earned respect and trust looks like. I'm not the biggest expert, but I don't think giving up 100% of your autonomy is healthy, even if you are in love. I think that's as true for me as it is for anyone else.
Who said anything about 100 percent? It's not even legally possible these days.
You need my permission to put *any* expectations on me. Once I give you permission on a certain set of expectations though, I am good for my word.
abuse and power relationships are two different things. inform yourself.
Take your agenda elsewhere. I know the difference. Being submissive and doing anything someone wants "uncritically" seems like an easy way to get exploited into an abusive situation (at the least, psychologically). However, if there is a mutual understanding between both parties of what is expected and wanted in the relationship, than the power dynamic may be viable.