I really, really, really like being an INFJ. Though I do wish I could have a bit more active J. I'm very, and sometimes even test with a P. So I sit here in my INFJness going "YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR STANDARDS ARE... WHY AREN'T YOU LIVING THEM!?" and my P goes "because.. I will later. Quit trying to control everything! Life always gives you other than you plan anyway."
They fight. A lot.
I am borderline J/P I am either J or P they're like oil and water don't blend
As far as the actualized INTJ thing, I don't know. I've never tested as anything other than INTP (and fairly extreme INTP). If it's measuring what I actually do, I could maybe see it getting a J, since there are things I make myself do because I recognize rationally that they have to be done, but it isn't my natural inclination to do them. Also, when I get into certain modes of doing things, I can be pretty methodical if I feel like that works for what I'm doing.
For the preferred type of INFP, I can see where that came from. I value the INTP characteristics I have, and I'd prefer to keep them. So I wouldn't want to actually be any other type. But I place a high personal value on being kind, and it really bothers me if I unintentionally hurt someone. I don't believe I've ever intentionally hurt someone. I occasionally do something through boneheaded NT cluelessness that may sometimes hurt someone, and I really hate it when I do. So I answered some of the questions based on my desire to be a compassionate, caring person, which likely pushed it over to NF.
Well, I took the test, and it told me I was an ENFJ who preferred to be an ENFJ and was attracted to ENFJ's.
These tests never work for me, for some reason. I don't know if it's that I'm more assertive than most ENFP's?, or that I've learned to use my J-function more than my type normally would, but it seems to mess up my test results frequently.