I assumed yours meant you like to date younger men, Victor.
It's a natural assumption to make, Ivy.
It's odd though because usually I don't go on dates. But over the last two weeks I have been invited on two dates on consecutive Sundays.
The first was with my lecturer, Susan, who is a beautiful blonde Pole, very intelligent, doesn't watch TV and is an athlete.
And although we spent four hours together, I knew at the first moment of meeting that we didn't make emotional contact.
So for four hours we ate, walked and talked without making emotional contact.
I learnt an awful lot about her in four hours and it became plain she doesn't make emotional contact with anyone. I enjoyed though eating with her and our intellectual conversation.
She contacted me a week later with a subtle but explicit invitation which all my instincts told me to avoid.
My next date was with a fellow student, Margaret, with whom I made immediate emotional contact. However she is deeply and chronically depressed. I enjoyed the emotional contact with her but it became plain I could not share delight with her.
She has contacted me a number of times since but it will go nowhere.
I am not really inclined to go on dates even with your younger men. I prefer dinner parties where I mix with everyone.
I had a lovely lunch the other day at a Chinese restaurant with my fellow students and I got quite carried away. So much so I even made up a little poem on the spot, it was -
"While Bach created the soundtrack for the Church
And Beethoven created the soundtrack for the bourgeoise,
Mozart wrote music".
Unfortunately it wasn't recognized as a poem, and the whole table got into an argument as to whether Beethoven did or did not write the soundtrack for the bourgeoise.
But it was very enjoyable lunch and I was the last to leave.