Accept the past. Live for the present. Look forward to the future. Robot Fusion
"As our island of knowledge grows, so does the shore of our ignorance." John Wheeler
"[A] scientist looking at nonscientific problems is just as dumb as the next guy." Richard Feynman
"[P]etabytes of  data is not the same thing as understanding emergent mechanisms and structures." Jim Crutchfield
I often hear people on the forum say that they don't like to socialize with people much because topics tend to be too superficial.
I'm wondering if this is so, how do you expect people to move into "deeper" topics (whatever those are) without first going into the "less deep" topics? Is it the fact that people ask personal questions (which I think can be quite "deep") rather than impersonal questions? Are people looking for particular questions that are "deeper" than others, like topical conversations (art, science, film, etc)?
I guess it's the way the topic comes up in the first place. For example, I'd rather have someone say "are you going to have kids?" vs. "why aren't you going to have kids?/why haven't you had kids yet?" I can see how a conversation about one's choice in the matter could segue into a "deeper" conversation.
What is safe to ask that's not too personal and yet satisfies a lack of superficiality? Some questions are rote and basic, but if you don't get those pesky little facts about the person out of the way, how does one move onto more satisfying conversation? If I don't ask, "so what are your hobbies?" how will I know that we both have an avid interest in OPI nail polishes?!