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    Lightbulb Vote: Being attacked or being defensive?

    I was first accused of several things, among which I was called "butt hurt" and then "defensive". I wondered if I was being oversensitive, or if my reading of the situation was that far off. Thus, a poll!

    Here is the first post: http://www.typologycentral.com/forum...=1#post1633332

    Here is the second post: http://www.typologycentral.com/forum...=1#post1633809

    Note that this is not meant in any way to be an attack on any member. I am simply curious about how accurately I portray my views and read situations given that I have tested as having low EQ.

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    That whole exchange was weird.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MacGuffin View Post
    That whole exchange was weird.
    Weird how? I felt like I was misunderstood somewhere along the way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nonsequitur View Post
    Weird how? I felt like I was misunderstood somewhere along the way.
    Yeah, you both seemed to be talking past each other. I didn't think she really was attacking you, but she was reading an emotional state (butt hurt and/or defensive) that wasn't present at all.

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    Sometimes when people make comments of that type in that sort of context, the best thing to do is not to waste a lot of time trying to decipher them but just ignore them.

    She just read the surface angst of your post without really understanding how you work, so you can legitimately ignore it.

    I would just chalk it up to that.
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    I don't know where she got "butt hurt" from.
    You were merely stating your opinion.

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    both. She was being dismissive of your post (which was kinda unfair because it was a valid post) however it appears that you let it get to you instead of rolling with the light jab. Thus you are likely also being oversensitive and its a bit of a wakeup call to develop a thinker skin.

    I know it kinda sucks [some asshole accused me of being butthurt here before too] but if taken in perspective its kids stuff. its best to turn lemons into lemonade and use it as a red flag on the real need to toughen yourself up to protect yourself from the letdown of a more substantial attack.

    PS. Also like myself at the moment, I suspect she may be still getting over quiting cigarettes and may be in a mood to say things that are kinda insensitive more than usual or otherwise to interpret them in a light that is less positive than usual.
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    I didn't read anything into what you posted, from my perspective it was misread with intent assumed.

    I would also not read into prpls intent though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MacGuffin View Post
    Yeah, you both seemed to be talking past each other. I didn't think she really was attacking you, but she was reading an emotional state (butt hurt and/or defensive) that wasn't present at all.
    Yeah, that's what it seemed like to me too. I didn't read either of your posts as being the result of defensiveness or hurt feelings. At first it might have looked like you were hurt because most people were giving these short, lighthearted answers and you started seriously questioning the definition of adult, and she was just ribbing you over it. Then you read her tone as more hostile than it was meant.

    People misreading each other over the internet. Who'd have thunk it.

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