Well, imo YW is a lot more feminine than me. A lot more family orriented and traditional too. I think I see a lot of her upbringing in her personality. She is more socially acceptable than I am, and even if saying the same thing as I, can make it sound less threatening. She also has that worldly momma bear thing with people who she likes to defend or stick up for. I am not really like that, and score 100% masculinity on most personality tests.
As far as Marm goes, I think people see a lot of similarities because we can both impose ourselves on others with a strong personality, however the motivations are very much different. I think Marm has a huge defense mechanism up that causes her to bite back at the slightest perceived threat, while I am just generally oblivious and don't see why people get so offended. Marm is a lot more deliberate in her target. I think she is a lot more emotional as well.