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    Quote Originally Posted by uumlau View Post
    What Poki said.

    Nothing in life is ever solely on your own terms. And when you get close to having things solely on your own terms, life gets very, very lonely and boring. (I've been there and done that. We INTJs like to have everything on our terms!)

    I'll tell you a secret: You don't really know what you want.

    I mean this in a good way, not as an accusation of ignorance, but as a statement of the human condition. The problem with life isn't that it doesn't conform to your desires, but that you don't understand your desires, you don't understand who you really are, well enough to make choices that will make you happy.

    That understanding slowly develops over time. In my own life, I didn't know that I really wanted/needed to learn to dance. It's a part of who I am now, but for many decades it wasn't, and I had no way of KNOWING that it was something I needed. Once I knew it, it was eye-opening. Mostly, just let yourself be open to new experiences and see what comes up (which shouldn't be a problem as an e7 Ne-dom!).

    In the meantime, given your type 7 Enneagram, that means that you tend to run away from problems you don't want to deal with, and you tend to resent that the problems chase after you and bite you in the rear. Type 9s have a similar problem of avoiding conflict. In both cases the fix really and truly is to face those problems head on, take care of them proactively, and most of the time they will stop plaguing you. Both as 7 and 9 we tend to see the problems as bigger than they really are, when very often they only take minimal effort to fix - we're just repelled by the idea of having to fix them. (We're totally the opposite of type 1s in this regard!)

    Happiness doesn't arise from "having no problems", happiness arises from "being capable of handling the problems you have". There is nothing more freeing than realizing that whatever fit might hit the shan, you know you can handle it as easily as 007 can navigate a casino.

    You might be interested in this thread that I started recently: The Elephant and the Rider - Jonathan Haidt's Positive Psychology One of the books I mention (and link) in the thread, The Happiness Hypothesis, goes into great detail about what comprises human happiness in psychological terms. It's not a self-help book, and it doesn't offer easy answers, but it does give a good idea how to look for YOUR answers, if that makes sense.
    Thats what life is about. Those who control things way to much usually find themselves in a position where what they thought they wanted was a vision that had lots of holes. The holes are the things they pushed out of their life hat they shouldnt have. We all have to find that balance or we swing between extremes. Once we find that balance we can actually learn to skip the scale so we can actually make the scale do whatever we want whether its sit more towards one side or another.

    A balance of Fi and Te are best for those with aux/tert Fi and Te. They have opposite uses though due to what we lean towards for cetain use cases. Eric B has touched on this concept though i dont know any technical theories or names. Just what i see with my own eyes.

    Completely agree with "hapiness is being capable of handling your problems in a way that aligns with you as a whole". This is where we need to know how to best handle things for ourselves. For example an ENFJ will need to handle a situation different then an ISTP because function wise we have different strengths, weaknesses that aside from experience is based on our different use and how they steer the outlook on our life. For me Fi is a background process. During down times i equate it to walking through a swamp just looking at my emotions and the values i have. Its like a view into myself. Where as a more dom Fi has it more at the forefront and its a deciding and controlling factor. Mine only controls when it explodes and at that point its forceful and out of my control. I live my life to where that doesnt happen very much so for the most part Fi is just part of who i am, but doesnt define who i am externally.
    Take what I say with a grain of salt, because that's all it is compared to the ocean of complexity when it comes to actions and real life.
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    I fucking give up people act like they want to help but even if i have proof that this is the problem no one will give me a straight answer i'm tired of trying and failing, i'm tired of trying and feeling like i'm getting no where, i'm tired of feeling like a burden i'm tired of feeling like there's nothing for me, i'm tired of people not understanding. I'm tired of being told i'm not trying hard enough when i'm trying as hard as i can.
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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    I fucking give up people act like they want to help but even if i have proof that this is the problem no one will give me a straight answer i'm tired of trying and failing, i'm tired of trying and feeling like i'm getting no where, i'm tired of feeling like a burden i'm tired of feeling like there's nothing for me, i'm tired of people not understanding. I'm tired of being told i'm not trying hard enough when i'm trying as hard as i can.
    thats retarded, only you and people who really know you habe any idea how hard you are trying. On a side note thats actually a good way to judge who actually knows you best.

    Take a break for a bit, recoup and keep trying. You will eventually find someone competent enough, thats one reason i do so much myself. Its hard to find real knowledgable people. Alot just have data, not actual knowledge.
    Take what I say with a grain of salt, because that's all it is compared to the ocean of complexity when it comes to actions and real life.
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    Why can't I read anything long ever?

    We shall not cease from exploration
    And the end of all our exploring
    Will be to arrive where we started
    And know the place for the first time.


    T.S. Eliot


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    Lol, so my laptop logged me out (every time I restart I have it set to delete all my cookies and that includes logging me out of everything) and now I can't remember my password so until I figure it out I'm stuck on my phone hoping it doesn't randomly log me out too.
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    Most internet pranksters and comedians just seem like jerks to me, they arent practical jokers in the sense of candid camera or other shows back in the day which tried to get laughs from creating chaos but not humiliating anyone or wasting their time or just being a jerk, and a lot of them seem to be promoting some pretty bad emoting or raging behaviour.

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    ok

    We shall not cease from exploration
    And the end of all our exploring
    Will be to arrive where we started
    And know the place for the first time.


    T.S. Eliot


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    Why did I think you gave a shit.

    We shall not cease from exploration
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    Will be to arrive where we started
    And know the place for the first time.


    T.S. Eliot



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    Quote Originally Posted by phobik View Post
    Coffee just makes me shake, piss, and shit a ton, not necessarily make me more awake.

    Then again, I guess it's more difficult to be sleepy when those things happen.. Also I drink it anyway because the smell is heaven.

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    FUCK YOU NETFLIX SG. FUCK YOU SG FOR BLOCKING MY CUTE AS FUCK ROMANTIC GAY MOVIES. FUCK YOU VERY MUCH.

    And I'm supposed to live my life here??? Fuck you and homophobic culture you fucking piece of shit it's not like I'm walking around in public whopping my dick out for people see and suck??? I just want to watch my 2 hours' worth of romantic gay movies and I can't??? What the fuck?

    FUCK YOU. I DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS.

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