Why haven't I figured out how to deal with people at their worst, even after years of introspecting, practicing active listening, and learning to be a more open and receptive person? You would think that after all that time, I wouldn't become a deer in the headlights when people try to open up to me and I don't understand what they're going through, and/or I don't sympathize with them or agree with their reactions.
Inb4 "you're an ESTJ, of course you're like that". After all that work, though? All that practice? Is there no way to overcome type in this regard? Does ESTJ equal emotionally stunted jerk, no matter what?