I am fortunate to be unfamiliar with brutality at close range.
Thank you for saying so.
I truly am not sorry. I left all that behind me as I got older and now see my parents as simply flawed humans. Like me. They married right out of high school and I well remember my father at the age I am now. So, now I just sympathize and take responsibility for myself.
To feel bad about my past or ashamed would be to feel ashamed about what has made me, me. While I want to improve and grow, I like myself for the most part.
So, if you did not experience brutality, what makes you so angry? Were you fat?
"Create like a god, command like a king, work like a slave."
It isn't loving to beat someone when you're drunk. I agree. But, the inflicting of pain can and does coexist with love. That is just the sad fact of it.
I disagree. The brutal moments are not loving moments, not connected to being loving. They may feel some love in their hearts at other moments but that has no connection to the disassociated self that acts brutally towards others at other moments. Those brutal moments are acts of hate.
"Forgive me because I really love you."
No, if they truly loved others, they'd do something to stop hurting them. They love their addictions more. Either to booze or rage or whatever. Sad to accept but true.