Interesting points. Love is an interesting subject. It seems to require a tentative relinquishing of control to the feeling for the other person. Allowing someone to have some space inside you.
I do think that real love requires a certain acceptance and vulnerability to access the other person. A willingness to relinquish demands and control in order to let the connection for the other person unfold as it will. It is tempting to try to force circumstances to meet your internal needs if you are anxious or fearful inside due to this vulnerability.