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    lets say you want to turn your life around and study, work hard, etc...

    but every day, you get a distraction, people call you up bc they want to go out, if you don't come out, they get mad... etc... bc u are not being considerate to their needs, etc... etc...

    what do you do? how do you turn your life around? without being an arsehole?

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    Just tell those people what you told us. Tell them how important it is to you to change and why. If they still don't understand it's their problem.

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    they won't believe me...

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    If you want to turn your life around, then you'd have to get selfish about it. Your life is all about you, you have needs as well. If your "friends" get mad at you because you want to change something, I'd reconsider whether they are your friends at all.

    Voice your intentions and concerns, explain to people what is important to you personally, why are you doing this and what you hope to achieve. Also, explain to people that there's no reason to get mad because there is a way to work it out and go out when it suits everybody.

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    they won't believe me...
    Have you tried hard enough?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sky is BLUE! View Post
    If you want to turn your life around, then you'd have to get selfish about it. Your life is all about you, you have needs as well. If your "friends" get mad at you because you want to change something, I'd reconsider whether they are your friends at all.
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    thanks for the advice!

    its starting to work! today i just started studying in front of C, now C finally is believing me and is giving me some more breathing room... cool cool. =D

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    You just kinda have to jump in. "No, I won't do that". Friends will think you are cold at first but eventually will give you 'schedule space' and may even become interested in whatever project you are working on.

    Its easier/faster/better to be an asshole than to verbally convince your friends to give you leeway.

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