I hope your parents aren't SJs with an attitude like that lol.
Unfortunately they aren't. My xxFP mother doesn't care very much nonetheless, my INTP father is quite strict but I don't live with him. I'm very ambitious myself, I don't need anyone else to make my life miserable with their demands. Childish as it may seem.
Unless it would be obvious to others and reflect poorly on me, I regularly arrive at places at least an hour early so I can explore the area myself, in my own way, before I meet whoever I'm meeting. Also, often so I have time to eat first. I can't be in the moment when I'm hungry.
Today, I'm going to catch a train four hours ahead of time to beat the traffic. That makes me happy.
This habit might suggest that I don't have much of a life. Valid speculation. Or, maybe I just shift my transportation schedule to spend the normal amount of alone time in places other than home, where I prefer to spend the absolute minimum of my time. I feed on changing scenery.
4w5 6w7 1w2 sx/sp ⏩ ISFP
RLOAX (don't do it) ⏩ Melancholic Hufflepuff
A lonely island where only what is permitted to move moves, becomes an ideal. Jung
Another thing that made me feel happy yesterday was my sense of confidence in tutorials. My identity is very much dependent on achieving in whatever disciplines I am passionate about, and I enjoyed being able to ask new, relevant questions.