Does small talk really impress the majority? Do people really think. "WOW, the weather is nice over in boresville? and he enjoys long walks?! THATS SO EXCITING"
Also, why would I want to waste my time "warming up" with someone for an hour with small talk, then find out we arnt compabedble. wouldnt it make more sense for me to "jump the gun." I dont want to give someone Im talking to a sense of security, thinking that I'm someone Im not. I dont put smilie faces on the end of sentences to be cute, or say lol, or say thank you when you shallowly compliment me. I dont beat around the bush, or play fair for your comfort.
Isnt that what small talk is? Making the other person comfortable? If so, then that isnt really me. By allowing them to get comfortable, Im not being "myself" in a way. I dont want to waste thier time either. Making them think "oh, this girl is normal." and then after meeting me they are like "shit. what the hell."
Real life, sure. Ill do small talk, because there is body language, tone of voice, sentence structure for me to read and guess whats appropriate and whats not. Online? All I have is my words. That's the only thing I have to my advantage. If you can keep up with word play. Great. f you are a sport about it, Fantastic.