My daughter has depression. She's always been the black sheep of the family; the one daughter closer to me than their mom. She'd rather lay around and listen to Metal than go out with her sisters, and would rather go on a hike than shopping. Still, sometimes she does and wants things that I just don't get. I think a lot of the quirks come from the depression, and that's just hard to deal with sometimes. And it means she has needs, and it takes a special kind of person to deal with that correctly. She's my little girl, and I want only the best for her.
So then here comes this scruffy-faced, long-haired kid. When you talk to him you feel like you're talking to Plato in the flesh, but his school performance is less than stellar. He has a terrible work ethic, as far as I can tell. He was smart, but I just felt like he was destined to have no real-world success whatsoever. But I paid attention, because my daughter's not stupid, and I figured that there must be some reason she chose this guy.
Soon it became very apparent why. He gets her, and damned if it doesn't seem almost supernatural sometimes. She can be having a very bad day with the depression, but not long after she's with him she's laughing. And it's obvious he loves her, just from the way he talks to her, and looks at her - not in a lustful way, but in a caring way. I asked "Why him?" and she explained to me that for some reason, around him she feels calm and happy. She said that even when they first met, she could talk to him for hours and hours without getting tired at all, like she did with most people after a few minutes. They have this "dynamic" about them as well. She's practical and straightforward, with her feet on the ground. He's thoughtful and abstract, head in the sky. Together, they seem to keep each other in line. In fact, the whole way they operated reminded me of an old married couple.
And there's something just so damned likeable about the guy. You get a sense of honesty, integrity, and a healthy dose of idealism when you talk to him. He talks about how he wants to make the world a better place, and just by the way he says it you almost believe that he really could. So maybe against my better judgement, he got my seal of approval. My daughter wouldn't be happy with a someone practical, really. She needs someone like that, he makes her happy, and I think that's best for her.
This was a topic of discussion on reddit asking fathers how they feel about their daughter's boyfriends. I don't have much thoughts on the matter. It's just one of those things I feel like I "get."